am i being messed with?

[hal24]

i'm back seeing a girl again off a layoff. lack of intimacy was the reason we went our separate ways. now that we've been back again things started off really good.she just does'nt like discuss it much and i didnt mind that because she was showing how she felt w'her actions. at least i thought.
we were supposed to rent an adult movie and watch together. that never happened. we got in a big fight over it because there has been little to no sexual activity. now two days after a fight she drops by.
i ha just been watching this few minute hooter girl thing on demand. ha. i turned it off but forgot to erase the title from the tv. so when she put it on the hooters title was there and she says"oooh what have u been doing?" so she turns it on and one of the girls she says "wow. great butt." "i f i was gonna dio anything with a girl i'd pick her." it wa completely out of nowhere. so i asked her if she liked girls and she said no but i would like her. long story short she says if she magically appeared in front of us she would like to squeeze her but and boobs. but said "it's just talk." none of this made any sense and as i prodded she then went back to her "i dunno" aswers that she gives to any sexual question.
i asked her if she was attracted to other girls sexually and she said "no. i don't think so." i then asked her what was the hottest part of a girl and she said definitely a woman's butt.
it was turning me on some but mostly now i'm just mad and frustrated.am i being messed with? is this why i'm getting no action? how do i get back to where i felt i had any control. io just feel teased and i know i really like her and i got a constant pit in my chest.

[Gigabitch]

Maybe she just likes girls' butts and it's not about you at all.

[hal24]

i just feel i have no control and i can't get closer. there is less sex. nothing lately.i know she knows two girls together turns me on but even after this teasing and previous fight there was no action afterwards or since. i just wanna get closer to this girl. she's nice as hell,looks like a hooter girl almost herself but doesnt seem to realize it,smells great,love her laugh,really really like her family. i'm wicked hooked obviously. i just need more and wanna feel like i know her more. she seems like she knows all about me. i just dont wanna push it w/more questions. i'd love any advice on how i could go about this or how i can get more control.

[Mathias]

I'd run.

Clearly, this is not doing you ANY good. If you two had a future at all, she'd be making you feel GOOD, not like this.

[hal24]

i hate not knowing what's on her mind regarding us. our whole reason for us getting back w/eachother was it was gonna be different this time. she seemed genuinely interested in sexual stuff. we looked at a couple of adult magazine pics tohgether-which also featured attractive women ofcourse which now im really wondering about. i don't really think it's the situation but if it was that she's bi or even likes women much more i wish she'd trust me enough to tell me. i've never shared a single thing we've done sexually with anyone.(besides here)

[Gigabitch]

Hal, I think you're manufacturing problems where none exist. Just enjoy what you have- it sounds pretty good. Quit jerking yourself around. You'll grow closer together as time goes by. Try to share some good experiences with her, not necessarily sexual ones. Women need to feel emotionally close to want to get into bed with you, so try to foster that.

You don't need more control. You need to learn to let good things happen, not make tham happen.

[vashti]

Something to consider: maybe she is fabricating her interest to keep you happy. You said you had a lack of intimacy before which led to a breakup, and I know you have been trying to get her to watch porn with you, which is something she has not really been interested in, right? She knows the idea of two girls is exciting for you, so maybe she is lying.

[Rosebud]

From what you said she doesn't sincere, or maybe she could be...we have no way of knowing. But in any case, if you guys already split up once for the same problem your having now this should be a maor red flag. Why put yourself through the exact same thing all over again?

[hal24]

well more of my ridiculous story unfolds. she now says she ran into the chick who works at the adult store and the chick encouraged her to stop by during a weekday if she can saying the place will be pretty empty and she says she's thinking about it. she mentioned how amazing the girl's body is and said she was really sweet yadda yadda. to be honest my initial reaction was pretty bothered but i think i played it off pretty good and just said. "ya,you should." "she seemed nice." to which she responded "ya nice. nice ASS, and then laughed. i did'nt pry at all and just said "yeah no kiddin." i really have no idea where this is goin,but i'm just gonna try to chill out. it's tough though. her comments both get me excited but a lil' stressed that if i just keep playin' it cool that i'm almost sayin' "hey great you like girls. go have a blast.", and that's not how i feel.

[hal24]

you make all the sense in the world,rosebud. i'm frickin hopeless right now.

[vashti]

I guess this is one of the pitfalls of trying to turn a religious girl into a sex kitten. It's like opening Pandora's box (unless she is just playing a game to keep you around, which hasn't yet been ruled out).

[hal24]

definitely not ruled out,no. she mentioned last night she's thinking of taking tuesday off and dropping in the adult store "cuz miss rea view offered to help me." i said "miss rear view. hehehe." then she says trust me. you didnt even really see it. it's ridiculous. it's not big but it sticks out and up in the air." so i told her that's what her ass looks like which led to us lookin in the mirror at her body in different angles which led to a good make out session but it didnt go too much further . but i didnt complain at least. i'm pretty nervous about her meeting and what will be said or goin' on. i hope she shares everything but i dunno if i'm confident about it.

[hal24]

this is weird right? now my chick took 3 days of this past week. she said she made 2 attempts to go to the adult store. the 1st day she said she walked in and she saw the other girl but she was busy and turned away and there was another dude there so she made like she forgot something and left. then she went back the next day and again was about to leave but the girl stopped her and offered her help and then was going on break so she got a coffee next door at dunkies.
from what she said they didnt just talk about pporn but about high school they went together. in the course of the conversation she said that my chick had the hottest body and all the guys wanted her but she was miss holy or whatever. this just makes nme insecure though i gatta say. in the end,the other girl gave her her cell # and said we should grab a coffee again another time and then we can pick you out somethin good after. am i being pushed aside by a chick or could this be completely innocent?

[vashti]

I don't know; it could be they are just becoming friends.

[hal24]

kinda weird if they become friends if she ends up picking out porn for us. on that subject,do most women tell their best friends about their sexual relationship? how about their mates size,performance?