Ladies,
I have asked the guys elsewhere but would appreciate a woman's view on this situation;
My Fiancee (we marry in 6 months and I've known her 2 years) maintains a 'friendship' with an elderly, unhappily married male (he 70, her 50) which has me wondering about overfamilairity. He fawns around her, doing jobs for her, e-mailing, phone calls and so on. A typical e-mail (which she showed me unintentionally) might go ' Hi [pet name], you naughty girl not calling me - when'X' (me) has gone I hope you can call me as I've missed seeing and chatting to you'. He has also always put off meeting me which doesn't seem appropriate to a friend.
My view of this is that I don't feel particularly threatened and I actually don't mind the firendship (he's an old family friend and I trust my Fiancee) but his language and manner niggle me. Not because he's a threat (at 70 and unwell he isn't) but it feels like I have to accept this behaviour because of his age/health. She says he's just a friend and appears not to detect the (to me) obvious sexual, flirtatious overtones of his calls. e-mails etc. It feels like an unhappily married elderly man indulging himself with a younger woman.
Should I be niggled by this (am I over-reacting) and, if it seems a little overfamiliar to you, what should I do?. Appreciate this is fairly mild compared to some problems but it remains a running sore for me.