Hi All,
I am guessing my problem will sound very similar to the others too, but nevertheless, perhaps all of you can help me out still.
My boyfriend and I have been having really petty arguments for the past 2 months. We've been together for 6 months, known each other for ages (we use to date before he got married. long story). We also face some bigger issues, about him already having a child, is causing quite a 'hoo-haa' with my family. He recently went through a divorce, (wasnt caused by me) and has a little boy (with whom i get along splendidly). He was also recently 'diagnosed' with having some mental disturbance, due to stress etc (but from what i know 1 mth ago, he refuse treatment saying he's ok).
But around 1 month ago, he started acting really strangely, acting really cold towards me. When asked, what's wrong he said nothing. I have never been the pushy kind, but when that happened, i actually did some 'text message terrorism' on him. When he finally called me, he still insisted nothing was wrong and that he was busy with work (he works in shifts). However, after much prodding, he said 'perhaps we can lay low for a bit, i'm not sure what i want'. I told him i didnt understand the whole deal of 'laying low' so i suggested that we take a 2 months cooling off period to work on things since we both are unsure of what we want at this point, which he agreed.
2.5 weeks into No Contact, he forwarded me a random text, abt finding happiness, love etc at 3.30am, which i ignored. I really wanted to take this time to work on our issues, to make the relationship stronger. We did agree on 2 months anyway. It made me feel that he missed me when he sent me that text.
However, just yesterday, i was bored at work (i know no excuse) so i went and view his Tagged account. He was never active with all this social networking site, but apparently he did an overhaul on his page just 2 days ago, new photos etc. And his status is : SINGLE. Interested in: Dating, Serious Relationship. Ok i did panicked for a bit. So, i dropped him a text after 1 week of receiving his saying, i saw his text that day, but i forgot about it as i was busy with my exams (which was the truth) and how is he doing. I have not gotten any reply since. I know he saw the message but ignored it.
I still love him, that's why i really wanted us to understand our own demons first before we work on the relationship. After seeing his SINGLE status and him not replying to my text...i feel that he has already moved on...
I don't know what i should do as i fear if i do the wrong thing, it will push him further away. But if i don't do anything, he will just move on.
Advise please. Thanks.