Date #3 First time I had sex and I was bad at it

[Raze]

So, I had my third date with this girl I've been seeing and we ended up making out which transformed into sex and I was really bad at it. I told her that I never had sex before I put the condom on. This is hard for me to talk about but I kind of struggled to get the condom on because I'm not used to it and it was lubricated so it was very slippery. She ended up helping me put the condom on. We had fun but it wasn't good sex, at least I don't think I did a very good job at it. I was nervous and I was more concerned about whether she was getting pleasure from it. She was moaning so I guess she was experiencing some pleasure. It was more of a quiet moan, not this really loud moan that you hear in porn videos.

After we had sex, she gave me a blowjob which was very nice lol and we slept together and continued to makeout. Then, we went to Denny's because I was so hungry afterwards. Then, we watched a movie and madeout again.

I guess my question is: is sex everything in a relationship? I was really bad at it because I've never done it before. Her reaction was that I will get better the more I do it with her. She said she liked the fact that she stole my virginity. I'm not sure how else I can get better at it without having sex and we are exclusively dating each other so I'm not going to go after random girls and have sex with them. I'm not like that and I'm quite satisfied with her.

Everyone tells me that if you suck a sex, you'll never get the girl but she's not giving me any signs that she didn't enjoy it. I think she's actually more comfortable with me now and likes me more.

What do you guys think?

Raze

[DoesntMatter]

First of all, a hearty congratulations on having you cherry popped!

Second of all, chances are you are overthinking this. You sounded paranoid going into the experience, so with that bias you were going to form this negative opinion anyways. What I am getting at is, you say you were bad at it but your opinion is obviously biased

Lastly, use this as a learning experience for your own good. The next time you have sex, you will know what to do more naturally. Show her you are learning and making improvements. I'm not talking out of experience here so know that, but I think that is what you should do. Try to have sex with her again sometime soon and since you will be better it will show to her

[qwertz]

hey I took a guys virginity once....

I think you are worrying too much. Your right, the only way your going to get better at it is by more practice- the fact that your girlfriend said that is a good thing.
Its really rare to find sex good and be confident the first time. You should try and relax, and let her lead and let you know what she wants until your more confident to do so.

Really dont worry, and just enjoy exploring your new found hobby lol

[Bumble_bee]

it all sounds positive to me rave, and the fact that she entioned the more you do it with HER....enough said...

[Initials]

If you're judging yourself based on porn movies (you sad something to that effect), don't. The majority of those are pretty darn fake, and aren't an accurate depiction of sex by any standards.

If she's not giving you negative feedback, you're probably over-thinking it.

[IndiReloaded]

Good job on using a condom. Keep doing so. Smart.

Sex gets better with practice. Porn videos are not a standard to hold yourself to, they are unrealistic.

[thrillaveza]

well it was your first time. you can't expect to be good at the first try, that's how you learn. it wouldn't hurt asking her how she wants it or what she prefers.

[Charlie Boy II]

It's a sharp learning curve, so you'll get better quickly.

While you're starting out, be very gentle with foreplay. Just glide with your fingers. And tease a lot, before sex.

[CocoChanel]

Yeah it will get better.
Just don't use this as a reason to become a porn addict.

[Junket]

Porn, cosmo magazines, and the internet gave me a head start on sex.

[CocoChanel]

Don't listen to Frasbee. Just do the Cosmo Magazine. Hahaa!

[Junket]

Well, actually I'll admit porn didn't really give me a head start in anything beyond personal fantasies. But yeah, reading up on articles in several magazines and you can learn from other's mistakes, and get new ideas that aren't crazy over the top.

sexinfo101.com has a couple articles and lots of ideas for positions.

[CocoChanel]

I want to go to that website but I'm scared.

[IndiReloaded]

sexinfo101.com has a couple articles and lots of ideas for positions.

That's a really good site, I think.