My girlfriend of four years has broken it off to me because she says she is not attracted to me anymore (Right before I was going to ask her to marry me). This has been a problem for a while but when we do make love, it is fantastic. This may stem from a number of things that have happened between us over the last 8 moths or so and because of her sexual past (lots of abuse). She has been having a lot of issues with these things that have happened to her in her past and also had a misscariage (my child) about 2 months ago. So over the last 4 months she has had no interest in sex and has said it was due to these instances but tuesday nite when she broke it off with me, she said it was also due to not be attracted to me anymore.
There are some other things that have happened that may have led to this but I want to work through it all and have suggested sex theraphy and counseling.we were living together in a house my parents own for about a year and she moved out about 4 months ago. She was upset that i did not move out either but I was under the impression that we would find a place together after my parents sold the house this summer becuase I had just lost my funding and have a dog (timing wasn't great for me). I think she saw that as a lack of commitment. Also, I have been caught looking at porn and she saw this as me thinking our sex lif was inadequate. I have stopped and realize her feelings and also realize that porn only destroys and poisons the soul. True intimacy cannot have someone with fantasies that come from porn.
another thing that i need to work on is being more romantic and I admit this.
Is it too late for us? I want to try. she deserves passion and excitement and spontanaity in her sex life. I want to give her that. Is there something i can do. I want to take her to a nice mountain lodge (we live in Montana) but I am not sure she will say yes since she has broken it off. Any suggestions.
Oh, very important, besides the intamcy, we get along FANTASTIC. great conversations, great snuggling. I love her family. And I love her more everyday.
thanks