Help me understand this girl.

[R. Harris]

I have been in love with this girl for three years now. She is beautiful, charming, witty... I fell in love at first sight - when we met I felt as if I'd known her all my life, and I truly love her with all my heart.
The thing is, I just can't work out what's going on with her. Looking back on it now (I didn't see it at the time) she must have liked me for the first 18 months or so we knew each other - I know from the way we looked at each other and how she acted around me, which I thought was just a girl thing, but now I know what it really was. Anyway, thinking there was at least a chance she felt how I felt, I was shocked when she started going out with an older guy (by about 2/3 years). I was completely heartbroken, and worried she might lose her virginity to him. That lasted for a few months, during which she barely talked to me.
After a long while thinking I had lost her forever, it became apparent that she was no longer with the older guy, and we started to get close to each other again, much more so than we had done before - we told each other all about ourselves, what we like and dislike etc. And we would sit near each other in class when we could, and she started sending silly/flirty text messages. After spending virtually a whole day together on a school field trip, I decided that I really should tell her how I felt about her.
However, in the next few days, she inexplicably completely lost interest in me, was very distant when we were around each other, and stopped texting me. What's more she started flirting and spending time with one of my freinds who seems to fancy her. Worse still, one of her freinds guessed that I liked her and very soon everyone knew (presumably her included)..
Next thing I know is that somewhere along the line there was another boyfreind. A couple of weeks later I discover there's yet another boy she likes. (I don't know if she went out with him, and I don't know how far she went with her other boyfreinds either).
About a month or so goes by and we finally talk again. she stops me in a corridor and asks me to wait for her while she talks to a teacher. Then we walk and talk with each other for a while. Although it was a little tense because she knows I like her and I know she knows and she knows I'm afraid to tell her. Yet, she seemed to look and smile at me the way she did before.

But how can I believe she likes me now after she has had so many romances with other boys? Has she liked me all along, but gets frustrated so tries to pursue others instead? Or am I just one of a great many boys she knows and she is only nice to me because she knows how I feel? Would anything really change if I tell her I love her? She truly stands out from every other girl because of her sweet, innocent charm, her irresistably pretty face, her beautiful curved body, and her incredible strength of character - she can have any boy she wants and she knows it.

Thanks alot for reading that! I love this girl with all my heart and feel she is the only one for me.
All your help will be greatfully recieved.

btw - we're both 16 if that helps.

[pleasebemine]

I actually have the same situation. It's just that I'm 17 now and i'm a girl. I also like my friend/bestfriend, but i can't tell him because i know that he wouldn't date a friend. but anyways, I think she just sees you as a friend. If she knew that you like her and still had that much boyfriend, i don't think he feels the same way. if you can, tell her how you really feel since your closeness is back. There must be a reason why she talks to you again after what she knew. however, if you can't tell her, it's better to move on. find another girl. it's hard to do but you're losing the chance to find other girls that will love you the same way.

[benadryllz]

If someone doesn't talk to you, its pretty clear they aren't into you. She probably just sees you as a back up since all her other relationships fell apart.

[xxazurexx]

^I agree.

She isn't as serious about you, as you are about her. And when another guy comes along who catches her eye, off she will run again.

Youi are only 16. You will go on to meet better girls than this one.

[R. Harris]

She isn't as serious about you, as you are about her. And when another guy comes along who catches her eye, off she will run again.

You're probably right about this.
But in the meantime, I feel really depressed. I thought I would be able to stop thinking about her over the summer, but I just can't, and I know that when I see her again at school which will be next week, it's going to make it much much harder.

Should I confront her about this and clear the air between us, or just try to have nothing to do with her (difficult as we share some of the same classes)?