I think i screwed up with my girlfriend... Any Advice?

[Tijnjemma]

I know this girl since the start of my year, we have been dating and stuff. And I liked it a lot. But the problem is that 3 months ago I broke up with her, I had a lot of trouble with my parents, school, work and was not really feeling myself lately. I told her I needed space and time. While we were about to break up (You felt some kind of energy in the air) we were talking about friends with benefits. She said that she never wanted it. I agreed with her. But now it comes. I told her I was not really looking for a girlfriend again. a few days later I started admiring her again... And yesterday I slept at her friends house while she was there. And at some point we ended up kissing, for like 10 minutes it felt really good again. But then she remembered what I said about not wanting a girlfriend, while I do want one now! I want her! But she thought in the moment I wanted Friend with benefits... Which was not true, but I didn't had the balls to tell her. And now I am stuck here, she doesn't really have a clue about me liking her. And I want to have a relation with her. I am so stuck.. Please give me some advise!

[smackie9]

Tell her! duh

[Fuzzyfeeling]

You didn't screw up! , in fact you didn't have the chance to up until now ,so be blunt about it ,tell her all you want and how she entices your butterflies whenever you see her ,and such.
Be positive! And go for it pal!

[TheEvilJester]

Yeah, I sort of agree that I wouldn't necessarily say you screwed up. You weren't necessarily feeling like you were ready for a relationship. Sure, it is a shame to have to end what could have maybe been a great relationship, but if you weren't ready for that, you did the right thing in breaking it off rather than to lead her on for any longer.

Now that you feel differently and have changed your mind, all you can really do is just talk to her and be honest with her about it. I mean, how else is she supposed to know you've changed your mind? Maybe she'll believe you, maybe she won't, but you'll never known if you don't ask. All the same, don't be surprised if she has a hard time accepting you back and not just worrying you may end things again down the road. Again, I'm not saying you did anything wrong, I'm just saying she may not want to risk taking you back for fear that you'd just change your mind again.

So, really, all you can do is tell her how you feel and hope for the best. If she is willing to give you another chance, just prove to her that you really do want to make a serious go of it this time and, in time, it will no longer be an issue. Good luck to you.