Me and my ex boyfriend broke up in May of this year, after (almost) three years. He didn't want things to end, because he thought everything was going FINE in the relationship (he must be in some serious denial to think THAT) But after going through the last year of the relationship feeling like he didn't want me, and then he cheated on me, and then BRAGGED about it to my face, I felt it was time to end things.
We've kept in touch, I would see him occasionally and he would always bring up our chemistry and how fantastic it was. Whatever. I left the country for a few months, I didn't speak to him much, I came back, started hanging, casually, with another man.
He found out about this. And all of a sudden, 'I miss you, I need you, I can't stop thinking about you, you're gorgeous, you're the perfect girl I need and want, you're everything I desire, I miss you so f*cking much I could die......' on and on. He started to show more signs of affection and care, then he did when we were actually together.
I have slept with him a few times, but it was purely out of weakeness. Because there is a part of me that misses him. But it's more like a slight little tug. It's not a throbbing wound anymore, and honestly I can go through a week without once thinking about him.
But there's a part of me that still considers Us.
So anyway, I was just now talking to him online, and he seems to think he knows EVERYTHING about me, so I asked him if he thought I loved him, or was I IN love with him.
And he instantly responded with In Love.
So I asked him, if he was in love with me. And he said......."I just love you."
Which turns out he was never in love with me.
So right now I feel confused, because he's saying all this stuff to me, bringing me soup and such when I was sick all this stuff! I spent THREE YEARS of my life with with this man......and yet, he was never In Love with me?
I'm just trying to understand what's going on inside his head. Seriously, WTF is going on.