Divorced?

[Chlorine]

Recently I met a guy whom I am interested in. He was married before and had an acrimonious divorce about 4years ago. He never talks about his past and I only learnt of it through a mutual friend.

Should I proceed with caution? How long would it take for someone like this to open up? Does divorce make you wiser, or just more cynical and bitter?

[Lloyd95]

? Does divorce make you wiser, or just more cynical and bitter?

Yes.-----------

[shh!]

I suggest you proceed with caution. Not all men who have divorced are bitter. You should watch and see how he treats his ex-wife and pay attention to what amount of responsibility he takes for the failure of the marriage, see how resentful he is, etc. It will give you a GIANT clue about his nature, so don't ignore it.

If he has kids and you are under the age of 35 (give or take) I would suggest you move on.

[Chlorine]

shh!----Your one-liner says "ignore Lloyd he is wrong". I'll take his response into account on this subject!

He has no children. He has never talked about his ex-wife, and I didn't think it proper to ask him about it. I wouldn't go out and purposely pick a divorced man to date, since there are so many unmarried ones out there. I just find him attractive because he is older, more down-to-earth and practical. He has shown an interest and I have been out on a few dates with him. Always very cordial and polite. Conversations have revolved around very safe subjects.

He doesn't show resentment. He just seems to have a protective bubble around him ie. 'This is my space, don't step in unless I invite you'.

I shall proceed with caution, as you have suggested.

[Lloyd95]

Personally, I don['t think divorced guys would be all that bad. Going thru a divorce sucks; it takes time, money and a mental toll on you. Something that a man wouldn't want to go thru again, if he could help it.

Maybe that means he'd be more closed off, cautious whatever.

You have to trust that you yourself are a good judge of character, take it slow and just see what happpens. Good Luck!

[shh!]

It's good he has no children Chlorine!! That would make the divorce less messy and reduce the number of complications for you. Good luck, and keep us posted.