Originally Posted by
SkinnyKid
Yes, however there are important details to explain that... Here's how it breaks down a little better:
We were partying at his place (which I actually own but he is my tenant, it is his home exclusively, I live elsewhere). She was at work. She asked me more than once during her shift via text how long the party would be going and if she could come over when she was done. My response was the same each time to the effect of "I don't know how long we'll be here". Ultimately at the end of her shift I said "You can come here if you want, I don't know how much longer we'll be". (She works less than fifteen minutes away, in fact, every possible destination in the equation is less than fifteen minutes from each other, his home, my home, her home, and her workplace all can be reached within fifteen minutes of each other.)
Seconds before she arrived he mentioned to me how exhausted he was and that he was getting cranky and had snapped and some other guests for something because of it. ... With that everyone started packing up. ... When she arrived everyone had left except for the host, one other buddy who was only still there because he waiting to walk to the car with me once I gathered my stuff cuz I hadn't seen him in a while and we were still chatting, and me. She walked in and took a soda (Red Bull actually) from the fridge as I was gathering my partially dranken beverage from it to take with me. ... As I exitted I said "are you coming" she responded in a snotty tone "I just got here". I replied back "Yeah, the timing was bad, but we're leaving now". She said "No, I just spent all that gas to get here, I'm not just gonna turn around and leave." (First clue; concerned about ten miles worth of gasoline.)
I walked to the car with my buddy, she stayed behind with the host. (It's a condo and the car is a significant walk, two or three minutes.) The host called me as I was getting to the car and was like "Dude, what do I do? I'm trying to convince her to leave with you and she won't. I'm kind of in an awkward spot here." I said (and meant it) "Do whatever you want. Seriously. She's a grown-up, she knows the party is over, she knows I'm leaving, and she knows I want her to come with me. I'm not gonna tell you to keep your hands off of her because if she's willing to do this now, she's willing to do it another time. I want her to make the right decision because she wants to, not because I had to tell someone else not to let her. If I have to force her to make the right choice today I'll have to worry about doing it the rest of my life. All I ask is that you tell me what happens."
He called about four minutes later asking "Are you sure? I don't want you to be pissed at me." I told him "I'm positive."
So he's completely off the hook as far as I'm concerned because I'm certain if I would have told him not to **** her, he wouldn't have.
As they say "If I had to tell her, she wouldn't be my girl." ... Hence, this one no longer is.
The issue I was addressing in my post is that she then tried to plead her case with a more detailed variance of the "I didn't want to waste my gas" story, then when I blew holes in it she transitioned to the "I didn't have the energy to drive to another destination" story. That's why I said "TELL THE TRUTH" because she keeps trying to come up with someway to be a victim in the whole ordeal.