I don't chase, I replace.
Well, thinking back to GrkScorp & Mish's comments, there seems to be some benefit to the 'letting her miss you more than you do' attitude. For some mindsets, anyway.
At least that attitude will allow you to get your own stuff (school, etc) under control, meantime. I definitely wouldn't leave the timeframe for discussion open-ended, tho, if I were you. You're not her doormat, to be picked up & dusted off only when she's ready to wipe her feet on you.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Just like she needs space to work things out, I need a couple of answers so I can handle shit for the next three weeks. If she can't handle answering a couple of ****ing questions so she can have her three weeks of space, then she's obviously not worth waiting for.
I don't chase, I replace.
You are going to shoot yourself in the foot, Cain. You are letting your emotions get the better of your judgement. What is so URGENT about things? You are letting your fear hormones drive you, you know this.
Emotions go up & intellect goes down.
Noone EVER solved their relationship problems in an emotional moment, Cain. Get a grip of yourself bud. Step away from the issue for at least 24 hours, I would say. No one will die, least of all you. Don't go all mental on this, Cain, we know you can do better.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
yeah once a person starts demanding to "know where I stand" they're headed for a dumping.
Cain, trust us. If you can stay away from her for even a week, you will have a much better read on the situation.
Harm in leaving her alone for a while if she truly cares? = None.
The only thing you might do is, perhaps, delay the inevitable IF she's thinking of breakup. But no harm there at all.
Harm if you push her to the issue before she's ready? = You lose her.
Noone likes to be dragged to face an issue before they are ready. And noone should *have* to do so. She has asked you for space, so respect that request & give it to her (for a while, anyway, NOT indefinitely). Suck it up, man!
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
I'd rather know that I lost her then spend the next week thinking I might lose her. I don't know if that makes any sense, but knowing that I've lost her will be easier than spending the week thinking I might.
I don't chase, I replace.
Well, its all about you ultimately. Good luck, Cain.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
If you all think it's best that I don't say anything tonight, fine. I'll wait. I'll ask how her day was, see how she's doing, and tell her I'm going to give her the space she wants and that she can call me when she's ready.
I will say, though, that if we break up, I'm going to be done dating for a long time.
I don't chase, I replace.
Cain, seriously. Let her approach you next time. Can't elaborate on that enough; you're being demanding of her dependence when she needs to be independent for a while.