First, when it comes to sex, society tries to define what is "normal", but really, there is no "normal". Sometimes there are things that are forced, and hurt people. Those things are bad. However, some people volunteer to be hurt, and that is ok because it is consensual. It's odd, but consensual. Some people link pain to sexual arousal. And so, with sex, there is "consensual" and "non-consensual". There is no "normal" or "abnormal".
I just need something to calm my mind about it.
For some, a fetish is a passing interest, for others, a lifelong pursuit. For some, they will try the fetish until they are tired of it, then their interest passes on to something else. Men are very curious about sex, and tend to like trying new things. In the context of your relationship, let him have his porn and see if he gets tired of it. Ask him to watch it, encourage him to watch it, and see if he gets tired of it.
My point is, I think you are nervous of what society will think of you as a person, or you two as a couple. So stop letting someone else define who you are and what you should do.
Other people on [url]www.fetlife.com[/url] (free account) will be able to answer your question better than I. On Fetlife it's all about sex and kink, but they can discuss it in a mature, informed way. Be warned, with a free account you can see pictures, and many are very graphic. Some even caught me off guard. There is probably a discussion group about younger men with mature women, or mother figures.
I don't know why this is called an Oedipal complex, because Oedipus did NOT know he was sleeping with his mother.
Last edited by bulrush; 26-09-11 at 09:16 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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