Originally Posted by
vashti
It isn't that hard to see that nice girls want to spoil their men, too.
This^. I dunno that I'm a 'nice girl' but I still enjoy doing things for my husband. I surprise him with the latest book by a favourite author, a lunch out, his favourite dinner... or [redacted]. The last one was arranging a visit to a facility I knew he'd find interesting.
Reciprocity is important for a happy relationship. Note that is very different from 'equality', which doesn't exist IMO.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh