Konart.. if you've spent as much time around men as you claim.. you'd see the logic in Frasbee's words.
The last thing this guy needs is to be sheltered from harsh words. Harshness is sometimes the only way you can tell when something is severe. Why do you think euphemisms work so well? Because they mask the harsh reality in pretty words and soft context.
This woman is manipulating you... and contrary to popular stereotypes... the man does not have to stand for it. It is your right to want a fair relationship in which you both can be open with each other without fear of what games the other is trying to play on you now.
If she is threatening to cheat... then she may as well have already cheated --- she is setting you up to fail so she CAN cheat with a supposedly clear conscience... which is bullshit.
Cut through her crap and give her an ultimatum of your own. Either she treats you with the decency and respect you deserve... stops with the mind games... or you and her are through.
If you fear she will just let you go... then the relationship is already over --- all you're waiting for is validation.
Being with someone you love is suppose to build you up --- not add drama to your life. This isn't love... far from it.
You can't save her from herself.. you can't save this relationship... and you can't make her love you. What you can do is pick up the pieces and move on. You're just wasting time you could be spending with someone who is worthy of your patience and affections.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen