Porn affecting my relationship?! Help.

[bcgirl]

Yes but even though it seems to have gone completely that way ^^ there are still lots of young people not sleeping around. Id say it all boils down to education and self-respect. There are still a lot of people who dont feel the need to go out and bang a random stranger and that goes for men and women. I know a lot of the kids I went to school with/hung around with kept their virginity till they met someone they cared about.

There was a small group about 20 people who were sleeping around from a young age and still are now. They also have no job, unplanned kids and prob a few stds along the way

It boils down to parenting. While the teens were partying in high school, getting drunk and having orgies...my dad would be hella strict which limited me alot of social fun which now as an adult I am thankful for.
Uncaring parents = teens with no rules = teen boredom = poor life choices
Dysfunctional household = teen lack of self worth/unhappiness = poor life choices

I think more than ever in this generation, kids are getting more education than they have ever had on sex Ed. They get taught about the birds and the bees and how important condoms are and how bad std's are in elementary school! If teens are still fooling around and getting pregnant, that's out of stupidity (not lack of education) because their parents lacked some parenting skill at their most crucial age.

[michelle23]

unfortunately sex education in some countries is poor though. I never got any in a first world country. The richest in Europe at the time so... but I had great parents thankfully so yes your right

[toknow]

sarahfort, you are completely right not to want him to watch porn. If he really loved you, he would not only not do it because you told him not to, and he would not only not do it because he feels guilty to watch it, but he would not do it because he would not be interested at all in watching it. The only person he would be interested in would be you and your body, your mind and heart.

[pcmaster]

Yes man but but there is diference if its your first GF or fifth. You will never do same crazy shit for other girs that you did for your first girl. You never had more than two girlfriends so its hard for you to understand.

[michelle23]

what u saying pcm? should have stayed with the first?

[toknow]

LOL...guys, have some respect for OP, I don't care at all what you think, so don't waste your time analyzing me, and spamming her thread.

Again, if you don't believe what I say is possible, simply move on. The only problem with that is though, you can never have what you don't believe in.

[pcmaster]

Just saying to toknow that there is diference when you use heart for first time and all the other times. When you could do everything for your first girl and still not feel like its enought. Other girls might not even be a reason to quit porn. Everytime you fail relationship you tend to take next relationship with slightly less optimism and sacrifice less. Guy might not feel like changing himself for someone other but himself so what girl wants from him or saying to him doesnt matter at all.

[Wakeup]

sarahfort, you are completely right not to want him to watch porn. If he really loved you, he would not only not do it because you told him not to, and he would not only not do it because he feels guilty to watch it, but he would not do it because he would not be interested at all in watching it. The only person he would be interested in would be you and your body, your mind and heart.

in that case she should just do what we told her way back on page one and just leave him.

[bcgirl]

Yes she should leave him because he clearly doesn't respect her wishes and continues to jerk off to porn when he's at work. This can mean he has an addiction (which he won't be able to snap out from unless he gets treatment) or it can mean the gf isn't enough sexually for him because he has some weird fetish that gf isn't satisfying...or he is just a selfish guy who puts his porn jerkin before his gf's feelings.

[michelle23]

yes OP you should just dump him. find someone who doesnt watch it coz it upsets you and ignore the guys on here saying its rare to find a guy who doesnt watch it.its not true. theres plenty of men who would not bother with porn-some dont even watch it when they are single.

contrary to popuar belief they dont need it to have a wank. if they do there addicted

[Wakeup]

maybe so, but I'll be surprised if she leaves him.