Originally Posted by
MerryH
I didn't see much of that on the first page...
I think you misunderstood that "don't be a friend" thing. You shouldn't try to just be friends with a girl who you have a romantic interest in. You should be pretty straightforward about your intentions with her. It's kind of a sneaky and conniving way to get into a girl's pants (or just date, whatever) because since you've never made your goal clear, she assumes you don't want to date her. So she takes your company at face value - platonic friendship. Inevitably, you, as her "friend," will awkwardly blurt out after weeks or months how much you're in love with her (of course you won't just be cool and ask her out on a date because you never had the balls to do that in the first place), putting her in a difficult position even if she might have some sort of feelings for you. It's an easily avoidable situation.
You, in general. Not YOU, you.