mutual, mature, breakups....are they possible?

[Perryville]

Jeez, Gig. You sound like you think I'm a bad guy, or something>!

[Gigabitch]

Not at all, just trying to kid yourself about how much damage you're doing. They're upset because you've hurt them, Perry. yes, it's their own damned fault, but aren't you a little tired of hurting every woman you sleep with? I think it would be cleaner to go to hookers. It's simple, straightforward sex with no strings attached, and it's probably cheaper than dating. Plus, hookers don't get their feelings hurt.

[lahnnabell]

I agree with Giga. These women are attached to you because you continue to sleep with them. It doesn't matter that you warned them of your intentions. Many women (professionals, intellectuals, etc.) attach an unhealthy level of their self-worth to whether or not a male finds them attractive, and/or whether or not he wants sleep with them.

You calling for sex tells these women that they are desirable. But most women are incapable of separating your desire for sex and your desire for an emotional connection. They see it as one in the same.

[MonLob]

The process usually works this way: I meet and am attracted to a woman , we start to date and begin to get to know each other , I will realize that the woman isn't the right fit and nothing more than a sexual relationship is going to happen, then the sex happens, after a time we break up and the woman is upset. That's about it.

Before the sex, are the women aware of your view that nothing more than a sexual relationship is going to happen? If not, I can see where they might be pissed that they were used.

[Gigabitch]

I think he tells them exactly what's in store for them, but they don't hear it. Women often go by the rule that actions speak louder than words and I'll bet Perry is devastatingly charming.

[lahnnabell]

I'm sure you're right Giga. My boyfriend was the same way. He's been in several non-serious relationships (according to him) which resulted in him having to get rid of crazy girls after he realized they were trying to hook him into a committed relationship through sex.

He thought that by just agreeing to no-strings attached that he was in the clear. This only made things messier in the long run. Most women want to believe they have a strong connection the guy their screwing, especially if you've already dated them semi-seriously.

[MonLob]

I am quite interested in how he lands so many women to begin with! Probably the charming part as you say...

It does sound like you are pretty up-front with em, Perry. I was mostly curious about the ones who you realize are nothing more than a few romps. So, they know this, but remain hopeful that it will turn into something more? And then are upset when it doesn't? An inherent danger of dating the women with the "ticking biological clock"?

*edit* Or as lahnnabell says, its all women?

[Gigabitch]

I am quite interested in how he lands so many women to begin with! Probably the charming part as you say...

Maybe he has an enormous wiener and a winning smile.

[Perryville]

I don't know about the "charming", part. If by "charming", you mean that I'm honestly interested in women, then yes, I'm charming. If you mean that I try to put over some kind of snow job, then I'm not. Women like me. It's the same with my Dad, and Grandad, women have always been attracted to us. God knows, it's not that we are goodlooking. I've too many scars, to be considered, handsome. It's not because we are wealthy, I'm just now getting comfortable. I am , however, direct. Might have something to do with it, IDK.

[Perryville]

IDK about the "weiner", thing , either. LOL I'm bigger than my hat size but smaller than my boot size. LOL

[Gigabitch]

Oh, you know it's all about confidence. Look at Lyle Lovett, for God's sake. He landed Julia Roberts. It can't all be about looks.

[Perryville]

Lovett can have her, I'm not a big Julia Roberts fan. Her mouth is enormous, and her body is too skinny. Give me Nicole Kidman, or Halle Berry, any time.

[Gigabitch]

I agree about halle Berry. I think she is the epitome of female perfection.

[Perryville]

I think so too, but I saw a movie a while back and La Lidman was nude. Her ass is the stuff of dreams.

[Gigabitch]

Was that The Birthday Girl?