I've been married for about a year now, but we've been together for over 8 years total. We have the comfort, and my wife is comfortable with me cumming in all sorts of ways but what I value most is what she enjoys and/or finds arousing for herself rather than what she lets me do just to make me happy. When I cum, I like to sort of gush all over the place without being restricted. So cumming inside or in her mouth are not my favorite, but I love cumming on her body. She prefers to feel me cum inside her and doesn't really love to have my semen on her skin but she tolerates. So its either my fave or hers, one of us has to tolerate for the sake of the other's preference. Wish we could share the pleasure of climax in the same way, mutually.