You must be fair and pick one of these men. My girl is friend with her ex and i have considered leaving her if she does not cut him off. it is either him or me. You may not be trying to hurt anyone but i gurantee that you are hurting both men emotionally and that if you boyfriend is a real man he will cheat on you and eventually leave you. do the right thing and stay with one man. an emotional bond is cheating at its best.