Do guys think before they start spurting romantic/flirty words?

[rayna]

I don't like this approach. It lacks subtlety.

I prefer more subtlety or creativity too. Actually I like guys that don't talk too much jk jk

[basilandthyme]

I prefer more subtlety or creativity too. Actually I like guys that don't talk too much jk jk

I sometimes have difficulty reading people's intent - which is why I avoid subtlety. Going for men who call it like they see it helps avoid the angst which started this thread.

[Love'sReject]

So isn't all this reason enough to not get all peeved when a guy admits to having lots of experience?

Most girls get angry at a guy because he hasn't been around enough; yet I find the more experienced the guy, the more likely he's going to be able to manipulat and see the relationship as a game or a puzzle.

[basilandthyme]

LR, what comment are you responding to? And why would a girl get angry if a guy hasn't been around enough?

[Love'sReject]

The recent influx of comments.

Girls don't like guys who don't have a ton of experience because once they find out, they assume there's a ton wrong with him and that he's going to suck at kissing or in bed,

[basilandthyme]

The recent influx of comments.

Girls don't like guys who don't have a ton of experience because once they find out, they assume there's a ton wrong with him and that he's going to suck at kissing or in bed,

I always figured that a ton of experience meant he was a 'love em and leave em' type of guy. Hence, experience has never been attractive to me.

[Love'sReject]

Exactly! Most guys with lots of experience are precisely that kind.

[basilandthyme]

Exactly! Most guys with lots of experience are precisely that kind.

And the women who go for that type of guy then complain because they get their hearts broken or can't understand him.

Honestly, I don't know why some women do this to themselves.....avoiding players isn't rocket science.

[Love'sReject]

Yeah but the majority of women fall for it. Screws us average guys over.

[basilandthyme]

Yeah but the majority of women fall for it. Screws us average guys over.

Out of my group of friends it was the minority who fell for it. But my friends are like me - they are call it like they see it kind of women.

[Love'sReject]

I guess that's why you tend to think my generalizations are wrong: you tend to roll with a smarter crowd who aren't so privy to falling for the shit I see the kinds of girls I'm surrounded by fall for.

[basilandthyme]

I guess that's why you tend to think my generalizations are wrong: you tend to roll with a smarter crowd who aren't so privy to falling for the shit I see the kinds of girls I'm surrounded by fall for.

So change the crowd you hang with. Do you spend much time with girls who study 'left brain' topics?

[Love'sReject]

This is the Orange County. If you meet someone who can count past "potato", you've found one of the smarter ones here..

[basilandthyme]

Orange County is in CA, yes? One of the nicest girls I ever met went to UCLA. Is that do-able?

[Love'sReject]

The O.C. is in California, yes,