Baby?

[Mish]

And about the Implanon, that would be only if she would even consider doing that. I don't know how she'll feel about having something put inside of her.

It gets put into the arm. It doesn't hurt and the dosage released is precise (i.e. don't need to worry about stuffing up the pill timing). It's safer than the pill. I think anything that makes your situation more risk proof is worth considering.

Though please consider other options as well. I know it's difficult, but it will be a lot more difficult if you have a baby you are not prepared for.

[Cain]

I'll definitely suggest the Implanon. We don't have many options. Any options we choose will make sex less enjoyable and most of them will leave me without an orgasm (not fond of that).

[misombra]

i can hardly understand why people who are older, done with their education, with a place and the financial stability to raise a child, why they have such a hard time having kids. yet the young and naive have the easiest time.

[Cain]

i can hardly understand why people who are older, done with their education, with a place and the financial stability to raise a child, why they have such a hard time having kids. yet the young and naive have the easiest time.

If I could wait until I'm 30, 32, 35, I would... but I don't want to wait that long. I just don't want to.

Ideally, I'd rather wait until I'm 25 or so... no later.

[misombra]

why?
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[Cain]

Because I don't want to. There's no long, thought out reason as to why I don't want to wait til I'm 30. I just don't want to. And neither does my gf.

[someonelse]

You know more power to you if you can make it. As long as you know it's hard and you're... as ready as anyone can be for these things you'll do fine. When we see you stop posting we'll know what happen.

BTW when she thinks she's pregnant is she still taking the pill? The pill is not good for the baby. I hope she's getting herself checked out.

[Cain]

There's no reason for her to stop taking the pill unless she knows for sure she's pregnant.

And we both know that it's going to be hard. We don't know how hard because you have to raise a child to know that. But we are both willing to make it work.

Like I said before, we both would rather wait a couple years, but if it happened now we'd make it work. She's more ready for parenthood than I am. I still have room to improve. She, however, would make an excellent mother. I know it's not the same, but she's been babysitting other's kids while in school and during the summer she works at a summer day camp.

[misombra]

that's great that you're thinking about you and your girlfriend. not so great for the child, though. selfish, you are being.

[Cain]

Because I don't want to wait til I'm 30?

[IndiReloaded]

Cain, no offense, but your posts just aren't realistic.

You mention your GF will make 70K+ year. That's terrific BUT she won't make that if she gets preggers now. She will need to be working at her job for at least a year (I think) to be able to claim mat leave benefits. And a lot of moms don't go back to work FT after they have a baby.

You need to get real, young man. As to when you have a baby, that is a personal choice. But make sure you have your ducks lined up.

You are too intelligent to be goofing around with something like this. Either you want to get pregnant now, or you don't. Make your decision with your partner & then act accordingly.

In other words, if you come on here posting you 'accidently' got pregnant, I will beat you to within an inch of your life.

[vashti]

Funny how babies make the most otherwise reasonable beings go all ga-ga.

[Cain]

Just tell me what my options are... I've already explained the options I think I have and two of them are still risky. I can't get off orally and can't get off with a condom... and I'm not going to wait three years to have sex again.

[IndiReloaded]

Just tell me what my options are... I've already explained the options I think I have and two of them are still risky. I can't get off orally and can't get off with a condom... and I'm not going to wait three years to have sex again.

In my case, I took birth control pills. But I was married (for 5 years b/f getting pregnant) & I took those pills religiously. I don't like condoms, they make me itch.

If there is ANY chance she isn't reliable and you don't want to get pregnant, I would look into an implant. I would have had one, but they weren't available at the time. BCC + condom (or vaginal film if you aren't using condoms) are alternatives if she has an 'oopsie' moment with the pills. Condoms or vag film alone isn't enough protection.

[Cain]

She's on birth control and she's reliable with the pills.

I can suggest an implant but I don't know if she'll do it.

It's not like we're getting freaky with no protection at all. I just can't get off with a condom and it tends to irritate her vagina... makes it really dry when she's normally really wet. Lube, I know, but that just stops the dry issue. I still can't get off.