Interesting question

[vashti]

Sometimes people consider excessive kindness to be the same thing as lacking normal boundaries or having no backbone.

[TheSphinx]

Perhaps. But like I said, I don't feel shy in front of any girl. I don't have any problems socially. I can chat for hours with people of any age.
I think, do enlighten me about this, being too kind and sweet/too ez to get removes the attractivness, am I mistaken?

PUN, from your earlier descriptions you sound a lot like me at a younger age. I suppose the reason I am so adamant about the role of sexuality in a relationship is that once I learned to embrace the fact that I did have a sex drive and was sexually attracted to women on top of their personalities, a new world of great women I had missed out on opened itself up to me. Up until that point, women simply did not trust me, as I was fighting against(or you could say lacking confidence in) a natural aspect of being a man.

From my experience, all of Vashti's comments have been dead on. Women want to know that you find them attractive physically and for you to be a man with the balls to accept the role of a man in its fullness. If you make this change sometime in your future (of course, it's your choice), I have a feeling you'll hear less that you "would make a great husband and father" and more that you "are a great partner.

~Sphinx

[Tedel]

Damn, PUN-ish, in what kind of religion / philosophic movement / sect are you, huh?