She says she looks at me as a big brother.... Ouch

[King Zarathu]

I'm considering everything. I don't think I've "rejected" anyones information, except for perhaps Neo, who implied that I was immature. The stuff I don't necessarily agree with, I respond to with my own reasoning. Why does that bother you so much?

Oh, and come on Z, have you ever seen me use that laughter abbreviation in one of my posts? I doubt it, because I can never recall insulting my own intelligence to that extent.

Hahahaha I'm just playing with you, it's cool. It just sounded like you were kinda, "No" to anybody who suggested you should just **** it and "I agree" to anybody who suggested you should go with it.

[BlueRaven]

Hahahaha I'm just playing with you, it's cool. It just sounded like you were kinda, "No" to anybody who suggested you should just **** it and "I agree" to anybody who suggested you should go with it.

Well I guess my bias is pretty clearly displayed throughout this thread. However, it should be noted that I haven't decided to definitely go after her, at this point.

So I do have somewhat of an open mind, except to any and all posts regarding red flags.

[Prodigal]

Sorry, but I wouldn't see that as having an 'open mind'. Can't blame you since feelings sort of cloud the mind, but multiple people all seeing red flags.. well, they might be trying to tell you something. It's good that you realize your bias, but that bias also closes your mind to advice that goes against your bias. I'm not exactly supporting going after it... I'm only supporting that you should do what you feel is right, because that's probably most important. I'm not saying that what you are going to do is what I would do in your situation. But I do believe you must do what YOU ultimately feel is right, because it's your decision, and your reward [or mess] to deal with. I have my suspicions about the girl and the situation, and thus I do sense a 'red flag'. But I also know that whatever I or anyone else says here will probably be disregarded by you, unless they wholeheartedly agree with you.

Thus, by your reactions it seems that your mind already is set and you know what you feel that you have to do. I think this is something that you just need to learn yourself. Don't say we didn't warn you, though, whichever way it turns out. And don't think that you're being open-minded about the situation, because you're absolutely not being so. But that's okay... sometimes, it is best this way. Following your heart and your instincts is the most important thing, and sometimes that requires being closed to outside sources. Just make sure that you remain open to your heart. Otherwise, you're screwed.

[BlueRaven]

Sorry, but I wouldn't see that as having an 'open mind'. Can't blame you since feelings sort of cloud the mind, but multiple people all seeing red flags.. well, they might be trying to tell you something.

I was kidding, about the red flags.

It's good that you realize your bias, but that bias also closes your mind to advice that goes against your bias. I'm not exactly supporting going after it... I'm only supporting that you should do what you feel is right, because that's probably most important. I'm not saying that what you are going to do is what I would do in your situation. But I do believe you must do what YOU ultimately feel is right, because it's your decision, and your reward [or mess] to deal with. I have my suspicions about the girl and the situation, and thus I do sense a 'red flag'. But I also know that whatever I or anyone else says here will probably be disregarded by you, unless they wholeheartedly agree with you.

Again, I'm not disregarding everything that goes against my own opinion. There's a difference between disagreeing with something, and disregarding it. Like you said, the decision is one I untimitely have to make, and I will do what I feel is best. Maybe I've wasted everyones time in this thread, but the way I see it, taking others views into consideration, couldn't hurt. I am considering them, whether you believe me or not.

Thus, by your reactions it seems that your mind already is set and you know what you feel that you have to do. I think this is something that you just need to learn yourself. Don't say we didn't warn you, though, whichever way it turns out. And don't think that you're being open-minded about the situation, because you're absolutely not being so. But that's okay... sometimes, it is best this way. Following your heart and your instincts is the most important thing, and sometimes that requires being closed to outside sources. Just make sure that you remain open to your heart. Otherwise, you're screwed.

You're probably right in the fact that my mind is already pretty much made up, and in that regard, perhaps I'm not a prototypical LF contributor. I just believe that the possible reward, far outweighs the risk, in this case. I haven't read anything here to change my viewpoint, so far. I am very open to my own feelings, and have been every step of the way. Thus, I have a fairly steadfast opinion on what is best.

[NeoSeminole]

BlueRaven says:

"I just believe that the possible reward, far outweighs the risk, in this case."

yes, b/c dating 15 yr old girl is such a huge reward for an 18 yr old guy.

[lilwing89]

oh... my gf is 15 and i am 17. she turns 16 in january, i will be 18 in march. her parents will let her continue dating me (its been two years) they are family to me, and they know their daughter and i are in deep love.

it will probably continue through college and we will probably end up getting married

just make sure the parents like you befoer you ask her out.

[King Zarathu]

yes, b/c dating 15 yr old girl is such a huge reward for an 18 yr old guy.

Tee hee! We all love to deflower young virgins, don't we?

That blood sure as hell is appetizing.

[NeoSeminole]

I took a girl's virginity. We were both 19. I'm very lucky b/c nowadays girls are having sex at 14 and 15. I know many guys who've never slept with a virgin.

[Mathias]

I took a girl's virginity. We were both 19. I'm very lucky b/c nowadays girls are having sex at 14 and 15. I know many guys who've never slept with a virgin.

I've slept with three virgins.

It's nothing to get all that excited about, trust me.

[Gigabitch]

I've slept with three virgins.

It's nothing to get all that excited about, trust me.

Me, too, actually, and I agree with you. In fact, most loss-of-virginity stories aren't all that romantic or sweet, and I'm glad I'll never be doing that again.

[vashti]

Virginity is overrated.

In the middle east, they are fixated on virgins and virginity. It is so freakin' weird - it's like stepping back in time 100 years.