I've been talking to this girl online for over a month

[Anything4MyLove]

ok then heres what i suggest you do:
go out and hang around people, hang around ur friends, meet people.
be social and enjoy urself, stop staying around home all day waiting to hear back from this girl. go out and have fun. and if u must, i guess keep talking to this girl at the same time. but if you happen to meet a decent girl in real life who there is a mutual attraction between you two, dont blow her off cuz u have this internet gf.
i really mean that. keep this internet chick on the backburner if you must.

Great advice man. I'll keep this in mind.

[Anything4MyLove]

Have you spoken on the phone? Heard her voice? How do you know this is not a 42 year old anti-social man getting a laugh? How do you know that she is serious? She could be a porn star pretending to 'wait' for you?


Why did you agree to pursue this relationship knowing that you cannot afford it?

LOL...She's not all of the above that you mentioned. I know her friends too and trust me she's exactly who she is to me.
It's because I love her. We'll be together someday if it's meant to be.

[Junket]

I actually don't. Despite her behavior lately I think she's in love with me. She's only 19 btw and I think she still want to have fun with her life and not be with me all the time online. But she's thinking about me. I know that by her actions.

Her actions are little more than signing on and off of an on-line messenger and periodically sending you an e-mail. What in the world can you know about her "actions"?

That was not a serious question, I was merely poking holes in your wishful thinking.

[Anything4MyLove]

Her actions are little more than signing on and off of an on-line messenger and periodically sending you an e-mail. What in the world can you know about her "actions"?

That was not a serious question, I was merely poking holes in your wishful thinking.

Okay, I get it. So you think that if two people cannot be together soon then that's not gonna work. Let me tell you this, if two people are deeply committed and put their heads together to reach one common goal then it's certainly achievable.

[Junket]

Okay, I get it. So you think that if two people cannot be together soon then that's not gonna work. Let me tell you this, if two people are deeply committed and put their heads together to reach one common goal then it's certainly achievable.

Nobody is arguing that.

We're just arguing that yours is not that case, especially if she's beginning to grow tired of talking with you.

[Anything4MyLove]

Nobody is arguing that.

We're just arguing that yours is not that case, especially if she's beginning to grow tired of talking with you.

She's not. She talks to me everyday on MSN. She just doesn't answer my email messages that often anymore, probably because I send too many of them. . We're gonna talk on the phone next.

[Lipp]

It's game over before it even begins. It sounds mean, but online relationships crack me up.

[Bokonon]

She just doesn't answer my email messages that often anymore, probably because I send too many of them.

That was the impression I got from reading your original post, that you may be sending her a few too many emails/IMs. I tend to agree with everyone else about the prospects of your online relationship (your views on this mirror mine of about 12 years ago but I learned my lesson), but this will apply to future relationships as well. Don't run to your computer/the telephone/a girl's house every time your stomach tightens with a swelling of emotion for her. You will smother her quickly. Rather, take a moment and breathe and do something else. Whatever you have to say to her will be more potent if presented less often and she probably won't get sick of hearing it that way, either.

[Linli]

This online relationship thing is baffling to me... I remember being eleven or twelve and having online "boyfriends" via neopets or other online games, but taking that sort of relationship seriously? I think not.
I'm not objecting to meeting online, but when I was fifteen and became interested in a guy who lived six hours away, even WE knew that it was best to wait until we met to start something exclusive.