never been in a relationship... not sure what is happening with a girl atm

[Gigabitch]

God knows what else we've been hiding.

I confess- I shave under my arms and I drank coffee this morning.

[SawyersBrother]

I dont know what I feel towards her. We laugh a lot, and rarely need to rephrase things - you know, it feels like she understands what Im saying. And I can't understand how I feel able to be so open to her. About how im feeling etc. I can just say anything and it isnt awkward or embaressing or anything.

But it still remains - would I have been so infatuated with her if we had got to know each other without the factor of her interest in me??? I really don't know, and theres no way to tell. Since Ive never been this involved before, how would I know? This is the main problem really.

I briefly spoke to her on msn earlier, we cant meet tonight, but she says things are ok. They really might not have been after last night, and we definately need to talk about things. We will meet in the morning, before lectures I hope - or I wont be able to concentrate on them at all. I've been so out of it today.

heh, she showed me pics of her older sister and her really ugly boyfriend. I think both of them have a thing for ugly dudes.

Maybe you just got your big break, your 20 and never been in a relationship, maybe this is your reward of waiting so long.

[Confused2005]

Stop calculating things so much and just go with it!....relationships can hurt when they dont work out.....but it can be a lot of fun until that point!

And you never know, this might just work for you!!!!

[and_for_what]

Is that really a long time?!

these days it seems to be. Everyone is desperate to hook up at like 12 or 13, or younger.

I'm meeting her in about an hour to talk about everything. Im not entirely sure what Im going to say yet.

[dreamer101]

how about "i can't stop thinking about you" - wouldn't that be the truth?

hmm having read all the pages, and all your analysis on "you" and "her' i simply think you are afraid.

another think that stuck my mind was how you keep analyzing why you became infatuated with her. "who cares?" she showed interest in you, you showed interest in her. but what you really became infatuated with was only discovered AFTER you showed interest in her. if you hadn't disovered that, you wouldn't have become infatuated. and besides there are various planetary alignments and complex chemical reactions that cause you to feel that way about her- something that you will never understand, trust me i know - SO GIVE UP. Just work with the fact that you feel this way.

too often have i encountered things that are not meant to be, this one is meant to be. don't fight it.

[and_for_what]

how about "i can't stop thinking about you" - wouldn't that be the truth?

that will definately be one thing I will say - there are a few other things too, but I mean I dont know how I will conclude my thoughts.

hmm having read all the pages, and all your analysis on "you" and "her' i simply think you are afraid.

another think that stuck my mind was how you keep analyzing why you became infatuated with her. "who cares?" she showed interest in you, you showed interest in her. but what you really became infatuated with was only discovered AFTER you showed interest in her. if you hadn't disovered that, you wouldn't have become infatuated. and besides there are various planetary alignments and complex chemical reactions that cause you to feel that way about her- something that you will never understand, trust me i know - SO GIVE UP. Just work with the fact that you feel this way.

too often have i encountered things that are not meant to be, this one is meant to be. don't fight it.

I hope youre right. I *am* a bit scared, sure. I'm always very indecisive (libra - that characterstic is true for me.) and uncertain. And at this age/stage, especially for people like us who have never had any real relationship, it could be pretty serious. I mean, we're half way through university - people meet their future husband/wife, you know. Maybe living one day at a time is comfortable because I can only see a few hours ahead. Maybe this is opening up my vision a bit further, and it makes me feel less secure.

It feels kind of "flat".. I don't know. Not like I thought it might. Like the 2 weeks were much longer, really condensed down. How easily we can say things to each other, I've never felt that comfortable with someone before.

Its so soon, though, really. Two weeks today since she first said hello - so maybe it is actually too soon. Although, like I said, after Sunday night I can't really back out now.

ah **** it - talking on here is really just a substitute to being with her and talking there. I'll go and meet her now, hopefully everything is cool.

Thanks

[vashti]

Is that really a long time?!

No, it's not all that long. Lots of people are in the same position, and just thionk of all the drama they saved themselves in high school.

[and_for_what]

we were with each other for a bit thisevening. Loads of talking, loads of contact. I got a few things off my chest, and answered some questions I had, but now I'm left with even more, and more things I feel like I want to clarify to her that she may have misunderstood.

I can't wait to see her again tomorrow. She's more sensible than me though - she has loads of work to do so didnt stay with me tonight. I'd rather just be an idiot and let it own my life.

During our conversations it was mentioned that in a way she'd rather have more mystery with us. She says she loves talking about it all, but at the same time would rather not know everything.

So this isnt anything like the original post now. I know pretty much whats happening. Still, I'm so messed up about it.

[dreamer101]

whoa did you say you've know her for two week? then you ought to not worry about things that are not going to happen (say for arguments sake) in the next two weeks. yes, very few people do meet their husband and wives at uni, but they never start their relationship with that intentions, and neither should you have to. and some are just there to have "fun". so feel the waters before you step in, in other words continue living a day at a time and follow your heart; live in the moment and don't build castles in the sky.

At some stage stop the Loads of talking, and get back to Loads of fun, cuz Loads of talking will eventually wear you out and get you nowhere.

[and_for_what]

whoa did you say you've know her for two week? then you ought to not worry about things that are not going to happen (say for arguments sake) in the next two weeks. yes, very few people do meet their husband and wives at uni, but they never start their relationship with that intentions, and neither should you have to. and some are just there to have "fun". so feel the waters before you step in, in other words continue living a day at a time and follow your heart; live in the moment and don't build castles in the sky.

At some stage stop the Loads of talking, and get back to Loads of fun, cuz Loads of talking will eventually wear you out and get you nowhere.

do you mean "very few"? Seems to me that a lot of long term relationships do start at this kind of age. My parents, family friends, etc, anyway.

yes, ive known her for 2 weeks now. I hope she isnt just wanting some fun for a month or two. If what shes saying is true; never had a serious relationship before; one back in school that she is reluctant to talk about, and that she has never wanted to get involved until now... then it doesnt seem like shes the type to be just in this for a laugh.

I *am* living it day-to-day. Its the only thing I can do, unfortunately. I'm just afraid that any day now, I'll stop being excited by her presence, and just not be bothered about it. In many ways it would be a relief, but it would be a shame, too.

I'll see her a bit today, not much though. We probably won't have an evening together until the weekend.

We haven't kissed yet - I'm open to it now, I think. I wasn't recently. I'll keep an eye out for an appropriate moment, I guess - when I'm most sure that she'd like to. Don't worry I'm not going to like ask her and analyse the pros/cons of kissing at a certain time.

[and_for_what]

aw man, today I just feel like I want to step back. Almost like I wish she's never started this. I will try to avoid suggesting we do things for a while. I only feel a fraction of the excitement I did just a few days ago.

[vashti]

aw man, today I just feel like I want to step back. Almost like I wish she's never started this. I will try to avoid suggesting we do things for a while. I only feel a fraction of the excitement I did just a few days ago.

You know, I bet that when you eat ice cream, it doesn't taste quite as good as the first time you had it, but it still tastes pretty damn good.

When you go out and buy a new CD, I bet your excitement diminishes a little every time you play it, but you still love the band, right?

I am seriously picturing you living in a dingy little apartment all by yourself at the age of 80. How old did you say you are?

[and_for_what]

You know, I bet that when you eat ice cream, it doesn't taste quite as good as the first time you had it, but it still tastes pretty damn good.

When you go out and buy a new CD, I bet your excitement diminishes a little every time you play it, but you still love the band, right?

I am seriously picturing you living in a dingy little apartment all by yourself at the age of 80.

My feeling less excited about things isnt WHY I feel like "ending" it. Thats just another (related) point.

I feel like stopping things because it feels so horrendously unfair and wrong to be accepting this when I don't know how I feel about her. I really don't want to lead her on.

I feel so sad about things.

My intention at the moment, though, is to stop being the one to suggest we get together or do things. I can at least do that much. I'll try to avoid any intimacy etc. I just have to see what happens.

[vashti]

I'll try to avoid any intimacy etc. I just have to see what happens.

Good plan.








NOT.




I think you should speak to a professional.

[and_for_what]

Good plan.








NOT.




I think you should speak to a professional.

: /

this is like having sex with a drunk girl, or something. How can I take advantage of her????