lover wants to be friend

[misombra]

no. but luckily it does end eventually. people usually learn this lesson sooner than later.

[ger_ireland]

update
she drove to my house this morning (2 hrs drive, she has never been here before, keep in mind we only met once ) to tell me face to face that she is not ready for a relationship, we kissed lots, went for coffee,

she said she loved me , she wanted me to promise id always be her friend, she thinks we should not see each other again as we both have strong feelings for each oher

so do i let her go ?, wait awhile, or try to be her friend, try to change her mind ?
thanks
ger

[whaywardj]

Thought you were riding that wave when this thread rolled by. Arty began it. (Or was that thread from the opposite take as your question? You decide...) Think you can find it again here: [url]http://www.loveforum.net/showthread.php?t=7942[/url]

[artyemi]

so do i let her go ?, wait awhile, or try to be her friend, try to change her mind ?
thanks
ger

ger, what you do want to do?

sounds like she already pick out what she wants to do.

anyway, have you ever been the one to call her first? have you been to her place?

i'm a little suspicious of this woman.. not only do i think she's a nutcase, but i also think she's hiding something from you..

[ger_ireland]

hiya arty
yeah she may be physco , no ive never been to her house but i posted stuff to her so i know where she lives, also i have phoned her home number approx 40 times in the last few weeks, any idea what she is hiding ?,she did mention there was oither stuff but i did not ask what, im certain its not a man, she did tell me on sunday that she had a cancer scare last year, maybe thats the prob, ie: i have a friend who broke up with her boyfriend cause she had m.s and did not want him dragged down with her,
take care
ger

[artyemi]

haha... so you've check down there, eh? that's good, that's good.

i don't know.. i just don't get the right feeling from your description of her. and you know, they always say to trust a woman's intuition. in your case, you've got shh!'s, misombra's and a bunch of other women's...

she's uncertain, full of drama, and doesn't know what she wants.

you can choose to remain there for her if she needs you, but in the meantime, keep living your life.

[ger_ireland]

another update
she just texed me to know would i chat to her online later, for fu(k sake, women
im lost arghhh
take care
ger

[artyemi]

yeah.,.. we're a bunch of complicated.. ummm.. women.

she wants you without wanting to give you commitment.

[ger_ireland]

ok she told me the whole story, i think we will be ok, its to do with her not me, some past issues
one of them she says is that she is like my ex who deff was...
the other issues are private
tnks
ger

[artyemi]

ahhh, you sorted it all out then?

[ger_ireland]

hi arty
no we said or goodbyes lastnight. we have to many feelings for each other to remain friends, she cant commit, so we walked away
take care
ger

[shh!]

Sorry ger-ireland, but I think you are doing the sensible thing. I wish you well.

[ger_ireland]

mega update
she phoned me last night, admitting that she does love me and is opening her heart to my love,
she was scared to face the truth

god help me
take care
ger

[shh!]

Oy! (smacking myself in the forehead) I'm giving up...

[misombra]

...open your heart to meeeeeeeeeeee darlin' i'll give you love if youuuuuuuuuuuu you turn the keeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey. open your heart with the keeeeeeeeeeeeeey...

i sing to you, you like?