Just by your choice of words and your adversion to a female having sex who can enjoy herself without having to be in control. I don't know hetrosexual men who use words like "slut" anymore or "prude" or call a chick "sugar" and "I've texted a few girlfriends" which would be you gossiping. I do know gay men that do use those cliches though and who like to gossip. You avoided stating that you were or were'nt so does that mean you are?