Are you referring to perineal tearing? A stage 3 or 4 tear involves the sphincter, but is exceedingly rare even with modern birthing techniques that are more condusive to such tears. Certainly anal sex carries a larger risk of minimal damage than childbirth carries of a stage 3 or 4 tear.
Now, I am a normal modern-medicine-loving gal in all areas but childbirth. But with regard to childbirth, I am a bit of a naturalist. I believe that stage 3 and 4 tears are more a result of putting birthing women in an unnatural birthing position that is not conducive to childbirth, and a result of epidurals rendering mothers incapable of managing their own pushing stage to minimize tearing. Not actually a result of childbirth itself.
In any case, my children's births did not impact my sphincter at all, and I intend to maintain its exit-only status to the greatest extent that I am able forevermore.
Sorry for you and your husband. I wanted to try anal and at first my wife didn't really care for it. it hurt at first, but we figured out how to do it right... Basically take it slow at first, and use the right lube(we found an amazing brand called liquid silk, check that out, best lube there is!)... Now years later, she loves it, and asks for it often. It isn't just 'for the guy'. I mean, I love it too, but she seems to love it just as much.
I read somewhere that if an ass is penetrated lots of times and over years, eventually it gets to the stage where you are unable to control your bowels and your poop....and you end up shitting yourself and before you reach a toilet.
Is that true?
shit really is hardly an issue. I'd say in in the hundreds of times we've had anal sex, only about two or three times has any 'shit' happened. And when it did happen, just a little bit would be on my d*ck after sex. No reason to make a big deal of it, just wipe it off, or take a shower if you feel you need to. If you are going to venture in that area, it is a possiblity, but we haven't found it to be a common occurance. The point is pleasure. If you like the feeling, then go for it... if you don't, then don't... but don't say you don't like it till you have properly tried it
Last edited by tom84; 15-01-11 at 08:21 AM.
I can say I don't like it because the idea of it is utterly nasty IMO. Nothing would make me dry and clecnch up faster than up the butt.
don't ask me why but I did this for the first time last night... no lube, it hurt and was painful and didn't really feel good... was pretty much just how I expected it to be. LADIES STAY AWAY! hahahaha
How can you have anal sex with lube? That's like a slip and slide without water! Ouch!!!