I don't like porn

[Aeradalia]

Holy hell... I feel sorry for your guy KrissyKris... the way you describe him was like training a dog.

Sheesh... he had to change because of your insecurities about 'down there'?

He sounds whipped IMO... and not in the good and funny way...

Men are sexual, lusty beings... they'll naturally gravitate toward sexual things --- particularly porn.

Rather than forcing men to suppress their sexual desires, has any woman ever thought that men could help them to embrace more of their own sexuality? Sexuality in a relationship is just as important as the emotional and mental aspects...

[Mish]

Well anyway, long story short, i caught him a few times watching porn, and almost broke up with him those times too. His excuse was "I'm addicted" so I took teh addiction away, I put a lock on his computer rating setting, no XXX sites allowed :O) HE said I could if i wanted to, so I did.

I always felt horrible and I felt horrible for making him stop watching it, but oh well, my feelings come before, he was never mean about it though.

Ah, here is a great example of a virtuous woman doing virtuous work! Well done sister. That will teach the sinful man the great perils of tasting Satan's fruit! Ofcourse, your feelings must come before any matter of evil and hopefully he had learnt his lesson on this occasion and his soul is saved from hell.

Now, let's hope other evil innovations will follow suit. Like his car and those devilish boxes with talking heads.

[Aeradalia]

Like his car and those devilish boxes with talking heads.

... his confidence, his opinions, his freedom, his individualism... and his testicular fortitude..

... oh... and he says "how high?"

[CocoChanel]

Ugh, girl... men are men they are always going to watch porn whether you're aware of it or not. They say, "Oh it does nothing for me, i prefer you baby" yet they still watch it. You'll learn to live with that porn addiction they all seem to have and can't live without.

[CherriBlossomGirl]

Ah, well. I guess my insecurities are deep rooted too. The typical high school story. All boys went for the big breasted girls and ignored us small chested ones, blah, blah, but it's true. That I liked some guys and they rejected me and went for the big breasted girl, who was usually dumb, whereas I was smarter or more talented or nicer **. Sometimes I was called ugly, etc. Usually prom queens and other "queens" of that sort were the big busted ones. But anyway.

** I'm not implying that all big breasted women are dumb or cruel, but these girls in high school usually were.

This is seriously killing me. Because you were insecure/jealous, the girls with the larger busts appeared unintelligent or mean to you. You were and are trying to find a way to compensate for something you see as negative.

My best friend in high school was really skinny, flat chested, and had no butt. I was curvy and very large breasted for my age. Guess who got all the guys? Her. Want to know why? She exuded confidence. She walked tall, she apologized to no one for being who she was, and she was accepting and happy. I was insecure as many girls in high school tend to be. Have you ever thought that maybe we dumb, big breasted girls can be down on ourselves too? Have you ever thought that maybe we look in the mirror too and don't like everything we see?

As for the porn thing, porn is fantasy. Nothing more.

[CherriBlossomGirl]

Holy hell... I feel sorry for your guy KrissyKris... the way you describe him was like training a dog.

Sheesh... he had to change because of your insecurities about 'down there'?

He sounds whipped IMO... and not in the good and funny way...

Men are sexual, lusty beings... they'll naturally gravitate toward sexual things --- particularly porn.

Rather than forcing men to suppress their sexual desires, has any woman ever thought that men could help them to embrace more of their own sexuality? Sexuality in a relationship is just as important as the emotional and mental aspects...

So true! I like exploring with my boyfriend. Indulging in a lifelong fetish, trying something new, things like that can bring you together and not just sexually. You become more comfortable with one another, mentally and physically. Men are not dogs to be trained.

[Anomaly]

Seriously I know exactly how you feel. My guy and I have been together for 2 years, he was a porn Fanatic! Like everyday all day [so disturbing]. But after awhile when we started getting serious I asked him to cut it out, cause I was self concious about 'down there', he said "I love the way you look! Porn is just something to waste time".

Well anyway, long story short, i caught him a few times watching porn, and almost broke up with him those times too. His excuse was "I'm addicted" so I took teh addiction away, I put a lock on his computer rating setting, no XXX sites allowed :O) HE said I could if i wanted to, so I did.

I always felt horrible and I felt horrible for making him stop watching it, but oh well, my feelings come before, he was never mean about it though.

All in all, guys are gross and you won't find one guy who never watches porn.

Well then, I guess that I'm kind of unique, maybe a woman will finally appreciate that one day!

[GemStar]

I used to think all men were turned on by enormous boobs, too, but they actually aren't. Some are, obviously, but you might be surprised at how many guys think they're over the top and extreme.

Agreed. I love petite chicks. Well, I love all chicks but... I don't like ginormous boobs really.

[Charlie Boy II]

I think girls minimise the threat of porn at their own risk. Regular use of porn does change the way men look at women, particularly in a sexual setting. If I was a girl I wouldn't want my boyfriend looking at it either.

[boobaa]

I am a guy. But i am tired of porn. Same shit over and over, and more xtreme things don't turn me o either. I just beat it off fast just to get it over with and then feel bad afterwards.

[Disillusioned]

Porn is, or is supposed to be, an arousal enhancement. Like any enhancement you may become dependant on it. If you're dependant on it regular sex might not do it for you, kinda like how steroids shrink your balls, porn can somewhat atrophy the imagination part of your sex-drive in place of visual stimuli.

I have a weird thing where love is clean, lust is dirty and the two are anethaema to each other. If I love a girl I can't be "dirty" with her. I can't even get it up because love keeps me on the verge of tears, whether tears of joy or tears of sorrow it kills my sex drive.

Masturbation keeps me less irritable and I need my all my patience intact but I can tell it kills half my motivation to seek a companion. It hasen't bothered me enough for me to change my ways, I just try not to feel too guilty.

[Gigabitch]

umm... i know that you're out of high school, so why are you keeping the same values??

That's a good question. Isn't the best part of graduating high school the fact that you can leave all that crap in the rear view mirror?

...trust is very important to me, personality, sense of humor, great smile, pretty eyes and natural hair.

I always wondered about that. I thought bleach blond hair was so trashy, but guys assured me that most of them didn't care how it got that way, just so long as it was blond. Thank you for disputing that.

I have a weird thing where love is clean, lust is dirty and the two are anethaema to each other. If I love a girl I can't be "dirty" with her.

I think that's terribly sad. Believe me, there's nothing as satisfying as getting it on down and dirty with someone you're madly in love with. I hope you get to do that someday without getting all twisted up about it.

[Junket]

Getting dirty with a girl you love requires a greater level of trust.

[carl1222]

Ugh, girl... men are men they are always going to watch porn whether you're aware of it or not. They say, "Oh it does nothing for me, i prefer you baby" yet they still watch it. You'll learn to live with that porn addiction they all seem to have and can't live without.

Coco ... you go WAY too far! Men are curious, and moderate (non-addictive) porn satisfies their natural need for variety in a way that PROTECTS the relationship. Imagine if they fulfilled these fantasies with real live sex instead.

Men rarely say "Oh it does nothing for me, I prefer you baby" except as a defensive move. The basic disagreement (and there have been lots of threads on this topic) is that women often believe that the models in the movie are the kind of girls their boyfriends really want to be with. SO NOT TRUE!

I'll agree with you that some men are addicted to the stuff ... but not nearly as many as you think.

Carl.

[lostbutfound4u]

To op
Stop thinking so much during sex.
Enjoy. Get your rocks.

Self image is a toughy. All I can say is... get over it. Love yourself, you are exactly as God wanted you and you are perfect in everyway.