wow, I can't believe I am going to agree with this but the guys are right. I know alot of guys that have porn collections ... and I am willing to take a bet that ALL men have some somewhere.. its just thier nature...
I can understand about not feeling like you are attractive to your mate because he or she is still masterbating to porn even after a long term relationship.BUT! It doesnt mean that he or she doesnt love you or doesnt want to be with you intimately. Obviously if he is doing it more and is being less "secretive" about it ... and its bothering you because you feel like you are being left out or your feeling insecure with it... talk to him. But understand ... HE IS NOT GOING TO STOP ... I promise you. It just wont happen.
THe thing of it is .. porn is just a visual. Men are visual creatures and its a total turn on for them. It has nothing to do with you or anyone woman in that relationship. Men are hard wired differently. Masterbation is like breathing.. they just do it.
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