Pressured To Have Sex

[Tiay]

Arn't people born with feelings anymore?

oh, didn't you hear? They made it an optional add-on.

[anachronistic]

Well I wasn't sure if breaking up with him was the best thing or not but something happened last night and I'm pretty sure its over now.

Basically I invited him round so I could talk to him and tell him how I'm feeling about all this. Said I wasn't ready for sex yet but I still loved him. Was pretty emotional and was hard but I did try. Everything seemed to be going ok but then, I don't know how else to put this but he kinda forced himself on me, said I was being silly and that I'd feel different afterwards. So I pushed him away and as soon as I did he shouted at me. Said he was sick of my mind games and that it was over. Then he slammed the door and stormed off. I'm still pretty shaken up, but at least its over.

I just feel horrible about it though, and its going to be loney without him around. But I know its for the best, especially after how he was acting, was well scary, didn't expect that.

tell him to **** himself. break off all contact with this prick.

[Miss hotty]

Hello everyone!

What should you do if you feel under pressure to have sex? Should you just cave in, because the relationship will fall apart if you don't? Or should you stand firm, even if the relationship crumbles and you're left all on your own?

And when is pressure acceptable as gentle persuasion, and when has it gone too far?

I have never and will never be pressure into sex. If i have sex it's because i want it and not because they have mad me that it's just not right

[Squished]

Ok, well he didn't have a key so it should be ok. But still doesn't feel safe here, and the whole things been a bit of a shock for me so decided to go home for awhile.

I don't think he was a total creep or anything like that, just think he was fed up waiting for me, so he snapped and I dont know thought he'd have one last try at wining me round or something. Was a bit creepy I guess, but after I pushed him away he did leave and after the way he shouted at me I doubt he'll be coming back. I wont be here if he does anyhow.

But you guys were right it wasn't working, so at least its over now. Think I just need some time to get over the shock and come to terms with whats happened, so going home today.

Thanks for all the support.

[Miss hotty]

I hope everything works out for the best for u and good lick

[Chimeros0]

Good Luck...
Not "good lick"...

Someone has sex on the brain...

Otherwise take it easy for now Squished,spoil yourself to a relaxing day at a spa or something to soak those troubles away.

[Tiay]

I don't think he was a total creep or anything like that, just think he was fed up waiting for me, so he snapped and I dont know thought he'd have one last try at wining me round or something. Was a bit creepy I guess, but after I pushed him away he did leave and after the way he shouted at me I doubt he'll be coming back. I wont be here if he does anyhow.

yeah. I'm sure since you were with him before, he surely didn't behave badly to you usually. But you're right not to tolerate it. Cut him off.

But you guys were right it wasn't working, so at least its over now. Think I just need some time to get over the shock and come to terms with whats happened, so going home today.

Thanks for all the support.

that's great! Imagine he could've somehow talked you into it... you'd have come out of this so much worse for wear. You'll find a guy who treats you right. Heck I made my bf wait like 2 years.

[Miss hotty]

Yes sorry i mean good luck

[Tiay]

best typo ever. (:

[Miss hotty]

I do this all the time

[Kiechi]

I hope everything works out for the best for u and good lick

I'm with Tiay.

[Miss hotty]

yes thanks

[lostgirl]

i really dunno wat should i do... me and my bf really have been together for few years now.. he treated me really good..concern.. everything tat i needed.. but he jus took away my freedom.. he doesnt allow me to go out or socializing with frens.. we had sex quite often.. and things has changed.. i stand up for myself i wanted my freedom.. and i really dislike having sex..maybe i am not ready yet.. but he alwiz forced me into sex with him.. and i jus gave in bcos i think tis is wat i should do because he treated me so good.. so i really dunno wat can i do? break up or jus continue giving in?

[Gigabitch]

i really dunno wat should i do... me and my bf really have been together for few years now.. he treated me really good..concern.. everything tat i needed.. but he jus took away my freedom.. he doesnt allow me to go out or socializing with frens.. we had sex quite often.. and things has changed.. i stand up for myself i wanted my freedom.. and i really dislike having sex..maybe i am not ready yet.. but he alwiz forced me into sex with him.. and i jus gave in bcos i think tis is wat i should do because he treated me so good.. so i really dunno wat can i do? break up or jus continue giving in?

Start a new thread and go into more detail.

[distearted]

My bf says he loves me but he can't go with out sex any longer, and if I don't put out he's going to leave me. So I'm thinking I should just give in, but after what you guys have said I'm not so sure. I don't want to lose him, but I dont know what to do. I just feel under so much pressure. I had to push him off me the other night because he was making me feel uncomfortable. Is it me with the problem, am I weird for feeling this way? What should I do? Should I just forget all my worries and just go for it? I really dont want to lose him.

erm...frankly speaking if your bf actually say that to you think u just need to make your stand clear to him..as if he really love you he won't force you to have it...for that both parties must be ready for it and not just becos u r his gf he is your bf and must have sex..well when both party is together i believe in the feelings in each individual and thats the feeling towards each other too..a simple words ba: it's take 2 hand to clap