Would you forgive your bf if he hit you?

[shakey]

one of my guy friends got into a huge fight with my ex bf. what happened was I was out with my friends and my ex came up to me and started hastling me, saying he'd changed. that he's given up the alcohol and wanted me back. i didn't really want to talk to him so i told him to leave me alone. but he woundn't and he grabbed hold of my arm and tried to pull me aside so he could talk to me. i resisted but when he didn't stop hastling and pulling me, one of my guy friends came along and told him to leave me. when he didn't things get very violent and they just got into this huge fight. its all such a nightmare now cus i didn't mean for him to get beaten up like that.

i don't know what i should do. should i go and talk to him and try and sort things with him once and for all? cus its so stressful with him hastling me like this. what can i say to him so he gets the message that its over?

[Kiechi]

one of my guy friends got into a huge fight with my ex bf. what happened was I was out with my friends and my ex came up to me and started hastling me, saying he'd changed. that he's given up the alcohol and wanted me back. i didn't really want to talk to him so i told him to leave me alone. but he woundn't and he grabbed hold of my arm and tried to pull me aside so he could talk to me. i resisted but when he didn't stop hastling and pulling me, one of my guy friends came along and told him to leave me. when he didn't things get very violent and they just got into this huge fight. its all such a nightmare now cus i didn't mean for him to get beaten up like that.

i don't know what i should do. should i go and talk to him and try and sort things with him once and for all? cus its so stressful with him hastling me like this. what can i say to him so he gets the message that its over?

Let your friend finish off the job.

[anachronistic]

shakey, you have a trustworthy friend there. always good to have those.

you need to get a restraining order on your ex boyfriend. it sounds like he is very thick-headed and obsessive, and the law might be necessary.

[Gigabitch]

i don't know what i should do. should i go and talk to him and try and sort things with him once and for all?

No. Do not even go in that direction. If he didn't get the messsage beaten into him with that ass-kicking, I doubt a talk with you is going to straighten him out.