How about I fly out to Cali, we have some hot angry sex (for all the posts we traded blows in), you pay me and I go back home........LOL, no commitment at all!
...one can be sure of nothing until it has already happened...
To the OP, why did you decide to go through with marrying this woman if this was such an issue for you? Please, tell me you didn't think that the act of getting married was supposed to cause her to change her ways. If someone can't commit BEFORE the marriage, what makes you think a person will commit AFTER? And do you know for a fact that confronting her will result in an argument? Or have you been avoiding the conversation out of fear of losing her? If she's willing to walk over a situation as petty as whether or not she gets to spend countless hours avoiding her marriage and playing footsie online, then she wasn't worth your time in the first place.
Sometimes I think I spend way too much time online, especially on this forum. However, in the presence of my guy I only hop on here when I know he's preoccupied with a Sox game, or playing MW2. It's a way we connect with one another, but still maintain enough space so neither of us is feeling smothered 24/7. Everyone needs time away from their SO or spouse, but your situation is ridiculous. If she refuses to acknowledge your feelings, or undergo marriage counseling, I think the only way you're gonna even register on her radar is if you get serious with an ultimatum. And even then, it's no guarantee she's gonna care enough to save your marriage.
>.> People like this really make me embarrassed of my generation.
Marriage and commitment are a divided responsibility. Everyone seems to FAIL at the shared responsibility thing.
Seriously,
if she isn't budging on this issue, offer her marriage counseling. I don't think after a month you get a divorce, I think it's simply an annulment.
People really should partake in marriage counseling BEFORE being married- that way they know what they're getting themselves into instead of launching themselves into a 3 year planning the Bridezilla Catastrophe, without really knowing that marriage lasts for longer than the ceremony.
If she balks at the suggestion of counseling, walk away. Don't whittle away your life being with someone who isn't going to change, and eliminate this selfish need to have other men fawn over her to make herself feel better.
Give me something I can take,
Can take to make the memories fade.
Poison kiss, remember this,
I never was meant for this day.