Originally Posted by
Mishanya
I rediscovered yesterday once again how inflexible I can be in my perceptions of people. A few of my co-workers and I went to see a band last night. In that group were two girls that I made a clear decision to avoid. One because she became an arrogant bitch after I asked her out and the second because well she's an attention whore. So there I was ignoring the hell out of them while paying attention to everyone else and it really showed. But now I think that maybe I over did it. I shouldn't be so set in my resolve. At the end of the day they are still friends, still people with their own little problems.
Though, it was funny to see how the attention girl operated. She started the night by ignoring me (she is used to people coming up to her). When that didn't work to win my attention she started to approach people I talked to, to win their attention over so I will have no choice and join in. When that failed she started to approach me directly. I thought that was ballsy, so I loosened up a bit and gave some attention to her in the end. This girl is very pretty and very intelligent, if only she didn't have so much baggage.
Anyway, my inflexible perceptions of people need to change.
Why should it change? I think it's good to make people work harder --- especially when they are accustomed to taking people for granted.
Why should you give them a fish, when you're so good at teaching them to fish?
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen