Originally Posted by
18dixiegirl
The only reason it is dumb to you or anyone else that has given their opinion on my situation is because you yourself have never been in this position.I do know him.No I havent dated him for 10 years b4 considering moving in with him/for him but I personally dont think you can put a time imit on your feelings like that.I appriciate all of the advice and opinions I have gotten on this because some of the points have really made me think but nobody should judge the situation or call me dumb or stupid for considering it unless they have been there.
Darl'n I moved in with my now hubby (of 30 years) before we were married but I dated him for three years before we did it. This is not about feelings and how we gauge yours. This is about you not even knowing if this man is an abuser or a serial killer for that matter and you're consdering going to live with him after knowing OF him for 4 months and then just actually dating him for ONE month. YOU. DONT. KNOW. HIM. or what he's really like. Don't put yourself in a position where you have to rely on him and his money and total control is all I for one am saying. This is not about feelings, it's about common sense.
Your situation is not unique. Far too many people move in with someone before they know who that person really is and they end up regretting it when they see what kind of person they actually are.
@ Vanity... you may only be 17 but you're very mature and it sounds like you have a very good head on your shoulders.
Last edited by Wakeup; 18-08-11 at 10:48 AM.
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