never been in a relationship... not sure what is happening with a girl atm

[Gigabitch]

She's very very comfortable with her body, she knows she's beautiful etc. Quite the opposite for me. I quite like how my face looks, its not conventionally attractive but i'm used to it. Im not so confident with my body etc though.

Maybe she's hoping you'd see something in her beyond her looks. I keep waiting for that. What's she like? Is she a good person? Is she intelligent? Does she make you laugh? Do you enjoy her company?

God, you are hung up on some shit that just doesn't matter.

Do you actually like this girl?

[and_for_what]

Maybe she's hoping you'd see something in her beyond her looks. I keep waiting for that. What's she like? Is she a good person? Is she intelligent? Does she make you laugh? Do you enjoy her company?

God, you are hung up on some shit that just doesn't matter.

Do you actually like this girl?

I dont know what I feel towards her. We laugh a lot, and rarely need to rephrase things - you know, it feels like she understands what Im saying. And I can't understand how I feel able to be so open to her. About how im feeling etc. I can just say anything and it isnt awkward or embaressing or anything.

But it still remains - would I have been so infatuated with her if we had got to know each other without the factor of her interest in me??? I really don't know, and theres no way to tell. Since Ive never been this involved before, how would I know? This is the main problem really.

I briefly spoke to her on msn earlier, we cant meet tonight, but she says things are ok. They really might not have been after last night, and we definately need to talk about things. We will meet in the morning, before lectures I hope - or I wont be able to concentrate on them at all. I've been so out of it today.

heh, she showed me pics of her older sister and her really ugly boyfriend. I think both of them have a thing for ugly dudes.

[Gigabitch]

I dont know what I feel towards her. We laugh a lot, and rarely need to rephrase things - you know, it feels like she understands what Im saying. And I can't understand how I feel able to be so open to her. About how im feeling etc. I can just say anything and it isnt awkward or embaressing or anything.

^^^This is what matters.

But it still remains - would I have been so infatuated with her if we had got to know each other without the factor of her interest in me??? I really don't know, and theres no way to tell. Since Ive never been this involved before, how would I know? This is the main problem really.

^^^This is a non-problem. Quit freaking out and just go with it.

heh, she showed me pics of her older sister and her really ugly boyfriend. I think both of them have a thing for ugly dudes.

I just don't believe you. PM me a pic of yourself and I will give you an honest opinion.

[and_for_what]

^^^This is what matters.
I agree

^^^This is a non-problem.
I'm not sure if it is

I just don't believe you. PM me a pic of yourself and I will give you an honest opinion.
heh, it doesnt matter how I look. I believe some girls would find me attractive, sure. Not many, though. I'm just pretty rugged looking, and hairy.

regarding my appearance though, im not sure how I feel about her feelings there. She says that even without the beard (which she finds really attractive and manly or whatever), she'd like me now that she has got to know me. A phrase she used, also, was something like that I fit into the general atmosphere of her life. While most people, she doesn't like very much.

[Gigabitch]

regarding my appearance though, im not sure how I feel about her feelings there. She says that even without the beard (which she finds really attractive and manly or whatever), she'd like me now that she has got to know me. A phrase she used, also, was something like that I fit into the general atmosphere of her life. While most people, she doesn't like very much.

Right. I'll just imagine a younger Rubeus Hagrid from Harry Potter, then.

Yes, your problem is a non-problem unless you choose to wig out on it. Choose not to.

[and_for_what]

Right. I'll just imagine a younger Rubeus Hagrid from Harry Potter, then.

Yes, your problem is a non-problem unless you choose to wig out on it. Choose not to.

I can't see how you don't consider it a problem... Liking someone because they like you, is no good. Sure its great to be wanted, a relationship would be so one-sided, it would be really weak.

Infact, i KNOW part of the reason I like her is that she likes me. Especially at first, when it was still a bit of a mystery. I wanted to spend more time with her to find out what was happening.

Just as certainly, I like other things about her. I can't think of anything I don't like about her, actually. I'd probably be pretty lucky to "end up" with her. It would be strange though, if shes the first and last person Im with. Which comes to another point that makes me sad. When we come to dislike each other. Sure, theres plenty of analogies and stories warning off that kind of thinking, but it does apply.

[Gigabitch]

I think that's all just a big distraction. You can entertain yourself thinking in circles about it, but don't let it imapct your time with her, which should be about WHAT IS instead of what might be, why this and why that, bla bla bla.

Live in the moment for once. I can tell you don't usually do this. It'll be good for you, no matter what happens.

[and_for_what]

Live in the moment for once. I can tell you don't usually do this. It'll be good for you, no matter what happens.

I hope so. I want this is be good, either way. I mean, I either want us both to take a disliking to each other, or us both to really like each other, for quite a long time ideally. I cant wait to see her again, theres a lot to say to her, and I want to note how I feel around her.

Thanks for putting up with my bullshit for 3 pages, dudes

EDIT:btw gigabytch is it ok if i add you on AIM

[Gigabitch]

Of course.

[and_for_what]

it says your unavailable?

[Gigabitch]

It'll wake up if you throw me an IM

[King Zarathu]

Oh, she's available alright.

[Mathias]

It'll wake up if you throw me an IM

You have AIM? Damn. Things I don't know.

[King Zarathu]

You have AIM? Damn. Things I don't know.

You have AIM?

[Mathias]

You have AIM?

Yeah, PM me if you want the name.

I don't want to give it out to where a google search turns it up.