Women like to be treated like crap

[Mish]

Why should it be that way? If you have to watch what you say and what you do, you're not being your natural self. So you're basicaly giving your 'date' a false image of whom you are. And then 3 weeks later, people wonder why it backfires.

If people can't accept you the way you are and you have to pretend being someone else just to have their acceptance, the only thing you're doing is setting yourself up for massive failure.

Do people honestly believe they can keep on fooling others forever?

Exactly

But unfortunately that's the way it goes in the dating world. You have to be on your best (restrained) behaviour, like applying for a new job lest you give out a false impression. And women can be very unforgiving, shallow and obtuse for anything improper that they attribute to signs of something greater on the first dates (He said "shit"? wow he might be a murderer!!) They can be like, sign Nazis.

[Aeradalia]

I don't like being treated like crap... but I do have to admit... when my boyfriend had finally lost his cool a couple of weeks ago... and the subsequent reconcile... I have to admit... I was impressed to see that he does indeed have a 'backbone'...

I'm not sure why I was impressed... though I'm sure it serves a more fundamental, instinctual purpose. I don't intend to ever see him that pissed again... but it seems almost like a relief to know that he is a 'man,' in that he does have a breaking point, he does know what he wants, and he's willing to stand up for himself if he feels threatened. I guess in the end, women want to have traits they admire in the man they choose... among these traits... confidence and self-respect being the most crucial.

[misombra]

Why would I have cause to, nor even want to do that?

That's weird.

um, it was a joke.

mish, girls will find something wrong either way, whether you're on your best behavior or not. if she doesn't like you when you act natural, then she should be let go.

girls put on the show as well, and are equally afraid of rejection.

[DelicateRose88]

Why is it that women like to be treated like crap?

Its like they hate it when you treat them like a queen

Whoa, whoa. . . it sounds like you were into a girl who you feel you "treated like a queen" and she gave you no attention. Instead, she went after the jerk who treated her "like crap" and you're wondering why she might have mentioned she wants a good guy but went for the jerk?

Now, maybe I'm off but the one or maybe even two bad experiences you had does not mean women like to be treated like crap, some women just haven't grown up yet and still think love is a game.

[Pink68]

I have seen guys who let girls walk all over them as well. I won't be treated like crap but I don't want a doormat either.

[Doc Durian]

I have seen guys who let girls walk all over them as well. I won't be treated like crap but I don't want a doormat either.

Just now, it seems to be a reoccurent theme on this forum from at least two audible females...

[misombra]

i changed my mind. i want to be treated like crap.

i want to be beaten and belittled and rewarded with children for putting up with it.

[Doc Durian]

I don't that, I don't want the other.... I don't want, I don't want, I don't want...etc etc etc etc...

It was the extremes I commented on, Misnombra.

The contrary wants/needs.

Like a woman who says...."I couldn't stand to be with a guy who didn't do what I asked of him/wanted of him/needed of him..... but if he did these things.... he's a weak pussy, and I couldn't stand that"

[misombra]

lol, were you a little drunk last night or what?

[Doc Durian]

lol, were you a little drunk last night or what?

I might have been tipsy, perhaps...

[Aeradalia]

I don't that, I don't want the other.... I don't want, I don't want, I don't want...etc etc etc etc...

It was the extremes I commented on, Misnombra.

The contrary wants/needs.

Like a woman who says...."I couldn't stand to be with a guy who didn't do what I asked of him/wanted of him/needed of him..... but if he did these things.... he's a weak pussy, and I couldn't stand that"

Women are affected by the cycle of the moon.. didn't you know?

Anyway... it's not a purely 'female' trait to be quite so contrary... anyone who feels emotions will have contradictary opinions, views, and aspirations from time to time... it's all part of being human.

[hoppy1214]

When I was young, I did indeed like being treated like crap. It's a phase and I grew out of it. These days, I don't like being treated like crap. But being showered with gifts and attention and affection isn't my cup of tea either. I think besides the excitement of having a kink tossed into the routine (which males and females like), it has more to do with being intimately understood. Lavish gifts can be nice on special occasions, but I really appreciate little things more. Like my favorite burrito from Chipotle. Or a bottle of vodka after a long day of work. On top of that, everyone takes routine things for granted-- we assume the sun will rise, we'll wake up tomorrow, and our significant other will buy us dinner Friday night. So when you make something routine, no matter how wonderful it is, it'll become less appreciated.

I guess the moral of the story is that women don't like being treated like queens if you are acting like a servant-- that means you aren't an equal and it's hard to be attracted to someone that doesn't challenge you at least a little bit. To the original poster, I'm sorry that you treated a girl like gold and got nothing in return. Just tone it down until you find a girl that treats you like a king and keep being the good guy you undoubtedly are until you find a woman that deserves you.

[lastwish]

Women who had her heart broken aren't as stupid to stay with guys who treat them like crap. I had one heartbreak and guys who show any signs of an asshole has no chance with me.

[yasamen]

dear Lonely Island
maybe u r rigth with such kind of women
but
there are women like angels and rosés and its so gruel to do so as u say
God bless u and help u

[kjb]

some women flock to the 'bad boys' but eventually wise up. we dont want to be treated like crap at all but we def dont want a guy that will let us run all over them either.