Getting to the next step

[carl1222]

I think you are overthinking this a bit, Greek.

If you'r holding her hand, permission to put your arm around her shoulders or her waist is implied ... just don't go for an ass grab! hahaha.


Don't even worry about the other 10% ... you will know if things are going well. If she is interested but she has a rule about never kissing on the first date, she will let you know because she doesn't want to give you a mixed signal. Take her at her word.

Carl.

[TheGreek]

Yeah, I am getting a little overly worked up about this. Thanks for the help man, I really appreciate it.

[carl1222]

Have fun!!!!

[TheGreek]

Well, I must say the date was wildly successful. I picked her up at 7:30 Saturday night and we headed over to the festival. The conversation flowed very nicely on the 15 minute drive to get there. Once we got there I showed her around a bit and then we got some gyros. After that we got in line to watch the Greek dancing which was quite a show. We would share a laugh back and forth and playfully nudge each other. It took some trying, but by the end of the show, I got her to say, "OPA!!" After watching the Greek dancing, we sat down and shared a box of Loukoumades (Greek honey balls, similar to donut holes). We stayed there talking and eating until the cleaning crew started putting the furniture away. We hopped in a little bicycle carriage which took us to my truck and gave me the opportunity to put my arm around her.

After getting in the truck, I asked her if she wanted to grab some coffee. A Starbucks was conveniently located around the corner and we each grabbed a cup and sat outside. Again, we shared stories and had more great conversation. I had her laughing and giggling the whole time. At about 11:15, they started putting the furniture away at which time we got back in the truck and rolled.

I was getting on the freeway heading home, even though I really didn't want the night to end. Then she asked, "So, where are we going now?" I then suggested a movie and we went to a theater nearby. We caught the 11:45pm showing of Quantum of Solace. The movie ended at about 1:45am and as we walked out of the theater it was kinda cold. I made a remark about it and she did to. I was debating whether or not to put my arm around her and finally I did. I'm sure she knew what I was thinking, but probably thought it was kinda cute.

On the ride home, we again had great conversation like we did the entire night. I had her laughing all night long. I dropped her off at about 2:00am. I was hoping for a little good night kiss, but it just didn't quite feel right. So I went in for the hug and we shared nice, tight hug.

So that was the night, I would say quite successful. We shared quite a bit and learned a lot about each other. There is definitely some chemistry between us and she is definitely worth getting in a relationship with. She's very cute and has a great personality. Can't ask for more than that.

As of right now, I haven't given her a call yet, but I will shortly. She wrote on my facebook wall at about 10:15pm last night and said "OPA!!" So I'm sure that she is wanting me to call her. We went out on Saturday night and today is Monday.

So my questions are:
Should I call her tonight or tomorrow?

And I also want to get together with her again. Should I mention that when I call her? Or should I wait and call her again before asking her out again?

Thanks for all of the help folks, I really appreciate it!!

[vashti]

Sounds like a great date! Call her tonight, and ask her if she wants toget together again (maybe next weekend?). If she accepts, tell her you will call her the night before to let her know what time, and then don't contact her again until then.

[TheGreek]

Sounds like a great date! Call her tonight, and ask her if she wants toget together again (maybe next weekend?). If she accepts, tell her you will call her the night before to let her know what time, and then don't contact her again until then.

Thanks vashti. OK, I will do just that. Basically the same thing I did last time. I called her and we talked and asked her if she wanted to get together. And then I called her the night before the date to finalize everything. Thanks for the help.

[TheGreek]

Another little update: We spoke tonight for about 20 minutes and are going to be getting together again this Saturday. Looking forward to it. Hopefully, we'll be able to end the night with a kiss this time.

[ecojeanne]

aw greek, that is so cool. congratulations!

[carl1222]

I'm so glad things went so well, Greek.

Just a small word of caution because it came up a few times during the thread.

Maybe you should worry a bit less about trying to finess a coolness struggle (things like should I call her tomorrow or wait until the next day; or I purposely kept the call short). Your date went so exceedingly well that it seems patently unnecessary to bother with these petty power games ... besides, she doesn't like them anyway, remember?

She seems hardly the girl who would take advantage of knowing you like her. Call her as often as you want and talk as long as you like!

Carl.

[1averagejoe]

That's cute .

I'm happy for you man.

[vashti]

Another little update: We spoke tonight for about 20 minutes and are going to be getting together again this Saturday. Looking forward to it. Hopefully, we'll be able to end the night with a kiss this time.

Nice... she likes you! Don't call her again until Friday afternoon. You are handling yourself perfectly.

[TheGreek]

Thanks y'all.

I'm so glad things went so well, Greek.

Just a small word of caution because it came up a few times during the thread.

Maybe you should worry a bit less about trying to finess a coolness struggle (things like should I call her tomorrow or wait until the next day; or I purposely kept the call short). Your date went so exceedingly well that it seems patently unnecessary to bother with these petty power games ... besides, she doesn't like them anyway, remember?

She seems hardly the girl who would take advantage of knowing you like her. Call her as often as you want and talk as long as you like!

Carl.

Thanks man. The reason I did that though is because I usually have a problem of showing my feelings too soon. So this, I played a little game with myself to try and stay a little more distant. Not that I wasn't being myself. But I didn't let myself get too excited too fast.

That's cute .

I'm happy for you man.

Thanks bro. How are things going with you? Any more luck on the approach thing that Neo's been working on with you?

Nice... she likes you! Don't call her again until Friday afternoon. You are handling yourself perfectly.

Yeah, I haven't spoken with her since Wednesday. Today is Friday. I might call her a little later tonight or sometime tomorrow early afternoon to confirm.

[vashti]

Let us know how your next date goes.

[DoesntMatter]

Awesome Greek. Very nice handling of all of that

[1averagejoe]

Thanks bro. How are things going with you? Any more luck on the approach thing that Neo's been working on with you?

I'm on thankgiving break...so no new updates.