Originally Posted by
Desdemona
I didn`t say it was necessarily `not it` but merely how I feel I come across, and I initially described how I could possibly be perceived according to others.
I have tried putting myself out there and at least trying dates, but again, they do not `lead` anywhere, which is fair enough, but it means really that it is not a great help, and I feel that I don`t want to dwell too much on finding somebody, as all it has resulted in has been unreturned feelings in one form or another and general disappointment and/or despair if I have had feelings for somebody.
And? You just quit?
Think about it like, learning how to walk. You know, when you are little and you try to walk you stumble and you fall down. Then you get up again and you stumble again and fall down. Then you get up again, then you stumble and fall down. Sounds pretty useless doesn't it? Why continue getting up just to stumble and fall down again? It's so much easier just to crawl and forget everything. But nooooo, you stubornly continued getting up and stumbling until you learnt how to walk, which you demonstrate now by standing up on your two feet. Are you greatful now that you continued to stumble until you could walk and you don't have to crawl anymore?
Here you have a different, yet not too disimilar situation. You need to learn something new and acquire a new skill set. Noone is going to do it for you and until you find a way to justify it to yourself, how to learn this you are not going to get very far in the dating department. And the skill set is very easy. Dating is a road travelled over and over, it's like openning up a can of tuna once you know the ins and outs. But obviously like walking, you're not going to get very far if you don't know and especially if you quit trying one third of the way.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~