Originally Posted by
miffy
I first put this off as a major troll. It really just didn't make much sense. But the longer you talk about it, the more legitimate it seems.
I think you have a serious, serious issue with yourself, not the two of them. I cannot in all honesty believe that you do not feel more strongly for one of them, or at least realize rationally that one of them makes you happier. It says more about you that you're so indecisive than it does about them. Besides, only one of them really wants you exclusively and seems to really love you, your wife. The other one just enjoys you and enjoys playing with you. That's what it seems like. So dump her, get the heck over her, and be with your wife. Not because it's the holy sacrament of whatever, you did get married in Vegas after all. But because she seems dedicated and devoted to you, and you'Re being completely unfair to her. Frankly, it's amazing that she's still with you after all the crap you're putting her through.
Cut all ties with the ex, and be happy with your wife. She has deserved it, your ex hasn't. And you wouldn't either from the way you're behaving, but if you're wife chooses to stay with you inspite of all this, you're a lucky man. Appreciate it.
Best post in the thread, right here^. Rep for Miff. And Troll or not, you don't need anything more than what Miff already told you. Good luck.
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