sex.. I didn't feel a thing

[tooxshort]

thats my life

woops, i wasn't aware of that ...

well, damn ... is it causing you a great deal of distress (your sex drive)?

[and_for_what]

woops, i wasn't aware of that ...

well, damn ... is it causing you a great deal of distress (your sex drive)?

not so much the sex drive but the related aspects such as general drive for life, decisiveness, and the physical things like exercise tolerance and recovery, and potential for improvement (zero)

[tooxshort]

Well, then this runs way deeper than just a sexual problem. I don't think testosterone had anything to do with those other aspects of life.

Sounds psychological.

[NeoSeminole]

you probably just have a retarded dick

[elNatural]

First I have to ask... were you completly wasted? Because 'whisky dick' is very common and happens to any dude. If its not that then it is most likely in your head. It seems you dont care about having sex, this is much more mental than physical. If you dont want to see a shrink then I suggest talking about your past with a close friend or if you wish on here so we can help you grow some balls back.

[and_for_what]

First I have to ask... were you completly wasted? Because 'whisky dick' is very common and happens to any dude. If its not that then it is most likely in your head. It seems you dont care about having sex, this is much more mental than physical. If you dont want to see a shrink then I suggest talking about your past with a close friend or if you wish on here so we can help you grow some balls back.

no I dont drink, and only one incidence of drug use in the past ~2 years - a drug that has no reported or expected effect on endocrine function anyway.

I guess, as a Biochemist, I believe in a stronger psychosomatic connection than others here. Testosterone has numerous effects, physical and psychological, of which sex drive is only one.

[vashti]

I agree that the testosterone levels could very well be the problem. I just can't tell if you are bothered by your lack of drive or not. You seem too apathetic to see a specialist which sort of implies you don't care all *that* much, yet you continue to post about it, which implies you do.

[vashti]

Maybe you are concerned that the problem may be psychological?

[elNatural]

If you have had your T levels tested and they are normal it is most likely in your head. I had an extremely high sex drive, which ended up causing problems in a past relationship so I had my levels tested and they were also normal. I have now found it was all in my head, I used sex as a way to express my wants and needs instead of expressing it emotionally, and I didnt think my gf wanted me either unless we had sex. Maybe you just dont want anyone at all and thats why you dont want any sex either? Now that I am single again and grown a lot emotionally I dont feel the need to have sex but am still comfortable to have it if the situation arises... no pun intended . Do you want to have sex? Are you afriad something is wrong if you dont want to have sex?

[tooxshort]

His impairment runs deeper than just sex.

[elNatural]

His impairment runs deeper than just sex.

Then replace sex with 'physical affection or attraction'.

[KillaJakez]

Hmm..def lay off the beating. Are you still beating your cock like an iraqi prisoner?
When you have sex again, imagine how good coming would feel. Ask her to put it in for you. *girls do this*. Be like "can you put it in"?, and she will guide you in. Next time you will be more familiar. No shame in that..I lost my virginity when I was 19 and it didn't feel good either. Now its amazing.

[Tiay]

I think you need to find a specialist. Also, when your doc told you that you're normal, did you just say "ah.. okay" and leave? You have to force it. You have to say what your problem is and insist that something is done about it, whether it be the T levels or something else.
To me it sounds likely that it does have something to do with testosterone.

I have an underactive thyroid, and because recently I was feeling really tired and worn out, I insisted on having my thyroid hormone levels tested. They turned out to be within normal.. in fact, rather to the top of the normal range. But I insisted that I was feeling more tired than usual and sure enough we found that I had an iron deficiency.

My point is, you don't have to figure this out by yourself. Surely if you tell your GP all the symptoms, he/she should try to get to the root of it.
Possibly you could even insist on a testosterone treatment even though your levels are within the "normal" range. A while ago I saw a documentary about testosterone treatments to increase sex drive and welfare in general, and they were given to people who weren't actually testosterone deficient, they just wanted it.

[and_for_what]

yea, Im never as forceful as I'd like to be, with a doctor. Since I last posted, I have had further tests, and accepted an offer to be referred to an endocrinologist (which takes like 13 weeks though).

Regarding the sex, which this thread was originally about. Well, a couple of weeks ago I was "with" her, and she told me she was on the pill. It turns out she went and got it the day after we first had sex, without telling me.

Man, its SO different without a condom. We have had sex quite a lot since then

I have persuaded her to stop taking it, though. I'm not convinced it is in her best interests. I dont mine using condoms except for their failiure rate - and tbh it really is only a matter of time before she gets pregnant, surely.

[Tiay]

glad to hear you're making progress on the doctor front. Just make yourself a list of what you want to say/ask, and stick to it- that's always helped me.

I think there should always be two forms of contraception there. the pill may not be the nicest thing- heck I've bled for one month straight since starting it - but it's much nicer than worrying about becoming pregnant.

(and hey, I just found another advantage to LDR's; don't have to be on the pill all the time)