Originally Posted by
CocoChanel
I'm sorry but I don't see how being spoiled can make you weaken your coping skills. That just doesn't make any sense to me.
Spoiled children are not taught appropriate social skills or even proper discipline. Their parents tailor the environment at home to suit what they have taught their children... however, what the children have been taught conflicts with how life really is. They expect the world to be as they were taught... and they expect their parents to somehow make it better for them when such conflicts arise.
Sadly, the world cannot and will not change for them... and since their parents have almost always changed everything to suit them... they lack coping skills to handle situations that are contradictory to how they were raised.
When you introduce a bully to a child who probably hasn't been insulted much, or even physically hurt... then they are traumatized, since they haven't had a chance to be desensitized to the emotional brutality and do not have a plan to deal with this... they feel helpless and incredibly insecure.
Have this situation repeat itself over and over again... this sense of helplessness increases to well beyond what the child can endure... eventually they will want a way to make this misery end... and sadly, some children see suicide as a way to end the torment.
This is how spoiling a child can make them weak to the tactics of a bully...
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen