What do men in relationships really think when watching porn?

[Wakeup]

I had a rather nasty answer here but I've deleted it because chastising you won't help you to see that you place too much value on getting laid by a man the hits you. I just hope that you'll never allow him to lay a hand on you in anger again and if he does, then you will remove yourself and your child out of that invironment and get some counceling so that your love yourself more and have the confidence that you child needs to see in a parent..

Your so called partner's porn viewing is really the least of your worries when you have a child who is witnessing arguing and violence. Witnessing that kind of thing is just teaching them to be violent in the future and to accept disrespect from people in general.

May you have the strength to get away when you need to.

*Steps down off soap box.*

[ctr916]

In my humble opinion, porn should be used for goodness and not badness whenever possible.

[Katmeow85]

I had a rather nasty answer here but I've deleted it because chastising you won't help you to see that you place too much value on getting laid by a man the hits you. I just hope that you'll never allow him to lay a hand on you in anger again and if he does, then you will remove yourself and your child out of that invironment and get some counceling so that your love yourself more and have the confidence that you child needs to see in a parent..

Your so called partner's porn viewing is really the least of your worries when you have a child who is witnessing arguing and violence. Witnessing that kind of thing is just teaching them to be violent in the future and to accept disrespect from people in general.

May you have the strength to get away when you need to.

*Steps down off soap box.*

He only hit me twice. Unless you have been in any situation where violence has happened you can never understand. My last bf did alot worse and I mean alot worse. I know there is no excuse for hitting someone. Sometimes people make mistakes. If it was really bad I would leave. My parents know what he did and will be there for me if anything happened again and I choose to leave.
I have never been hit in front of my child. Our arguments have also usually been when he has been asleep. Also in another room or when he hasnt been with us. I know he can hear us sometimes but all couples argue. Can you tell me a couple that hasnt argued in front of their children at one time or another?

[HeartIsAching]

I had a rather nasty answer here but I've deleted it because chastising you won't help you to see that you place too much value on getting laid by a man the hits you. I just hope that you'll never allow him to lay a hand on you in anger again and if he does, then you will remove yourself and your child out of that invironment and get some counceling so that your love yourself more and have the confidence that you child needs to see in a parent..

Your so called partner's porn viewing is really the least of your worries when you have a child who is witnessing arguing and violence. Witnessing that kind of thing is just teaching them to be violent in the future and to accept disrespect from people in general.

May you have the strength to get away when you need to.

*Steps down off soap box.*

Holy shit... I checked out of this mess of a thread quite some time ago, had no idea it'd grown to nearly 30 pages so far.

Wakeup's right. As someone who's been arrested for violence in a home with my kid in it... you need to make sure that kid knows that violence has no place in a relationship. NO PLACE.

[ctr916]

So, what do you chicks suggest or recommend nice guys do to work on their attitude and character?