What do men in relationships really think when watching porn?

[Katmeow85]

Ive just lost any hope.

[Wakeup]

Ive just lost any hope.

Do you have children?

[Katmeow85]

Do you have children?

Yes one boy

[Wakeup]

then you need to buck up buttercup and get working on getting yourself into therapy so that you can be the bestest and happiest mom out there for your little guy. Kids pick up on their parents unhappiness and it's totally wrong for him to be growing up and watching the way men hit you. It's just teaching him that women get put in their place when they "don't behave" the way the man thinks they should which is just so wrong on so many accounts.

Please make the effort to ensure you get councelling as quick as you can. Call them today and tell them that you're at your wits ends, that you're being abused and you need to speak to someone. If you're too weak to do it for yourself then please do it for your son.

[richardwordoff]

Nothing really, just getting aroused by attractive women. Not necessarily an indicator of disinterest towards wife/girlfriend. I guess if wife/girlfriend did enough with him he may fulfilled and not care to look at porn, but that isn't necessarily true.

[punky]

The obvious answer is: sex.

The more nuanced answer is that your sex life could use improvement. Either quantity or quality, it's up to you and your partner to figure out.

[Wakeup]

The obvious answer is: sex.

The more nuanced answer is that your sex life could use improvement. Either quantity or quality, it's up to you and your partner to figure out.

That is quite the logical fallacy you've got yourself believing there, Punky.

[punky]

What is not logical?

[BigBlak]

Women and Men are wired different as i was having a discussion earlier today with my gf, ALL FEMALES NEED TO UNDERSTAND THIS. What a man does sexually is emotionless and damn near careless, and thats why there is that double standard that ladies hate. A man will watch porn and go to sleep or go back to what he was doing and most likeyly forget the scene he finished to some minutes down the road, nothing to do with how he feels about his partners sex appeal or performance( me personally i do it to help me sleep sometimes even after a nice day of good sex with my girl because i have to force myself to sleep to get a good amount of sleep at night). Same thing with cheating ( not trying to justify anything here) a man cheating is nothing but a slip up its because he lost self control, while most time a women cheating is way more deeper then just a slip up( probably been emotionally cheating for a while). For a guy to look at every female he finds attractive and think to himself "she can get it " is normal, females are not wired to be like that and thats how society views women and men and thats why if a guy sleeps with alot of women he is considered the man while if the women is known for sleeping around with alot of guys she is the town whore. Moral of my point ladies stop looking at guys as if we are like you and if you cant stop looking at us like that just get with a female and live happily. Oh and OP if your that insecure you need to check yourself because most likely your nowhere near willing to please your man the way he ask and you know what your not doing, and if thats the case you dont love him so why are you with that person ? because there is very few to nothing you wouldnt do to please the one you love. My $0.02

[smackie9]

Good luck explaining that to young women or girls....they just cant get their head around it......some do know how a guy thinks, its the acceptance part that they cant come to terms with. I feel women are stupid in the head to think that they should be the only thing their BF should ever think about or desire....that they should be all they need lol! what a joke.

[Katmeow85]

Btw I do everything sexually for him Bigblak. Since my post we have had alot of sex all dif kinds. Im coming to terms with him watching porn. The problem was him not touching me that much so i just kept intiating it. If he cant be bothered making the moves then Ill have to.

[Wakeup]

Btw I do everything sexually for him Bigblak. Since my post we have had alot of sex all dif kinds. Im coming to terms with him watching porn. The problem was him not touching me that much so i just kept intiating it. If he cant be bothered making the moves then Ill have to.

If he hits you again then get the **** out and quit worrying so much about sex.

[BigBlak]

Btw I do everything sexually for him Bigblak. Since my post we have had alot of sex all dif kinds. Im coming to terms with him watching porn. The problem was him not touching me that much so i just kept intiating it. If he cant be bothered making the moves then Ill have to.

If the case is/was he would rather watch porn then have sex with you then you had all the right to be worried i just read the first couple of pages and that wasnt clear from you that that was the case. But yea hope everything is good now with that if not he has a addiction and its nothing to do with you, your just going to have to help him out with that or leave him. Good Luck.

[ctr916]

I don't have any idea what will help. Maybe if I believed I was beautiful and hot or just was those two things I wouldnt be a bothered. I've so far lost over 30lbs but need to lose a bit more. I think also if my boyfriend paid more attention to me sexually I'd feel a bit better also, like 3 times a week would do be fine.

This thing about male equality and porn is bs though.

You claim that, but offer no line of reasoning to support your contention. Would you like to present one?

Have you considered a polyamory form of relationship? Would your boyfriend be bothered by meeting new girl friends with benefits or you meeting new boy friends with benefits? In my humble opinion, it could take some work to maintain any relationship, as a form of benefit to a friend.

[LOVE_CONFUSED]

If you have mind blowing sex with your partner and the next morning they have a browse of the usual porn sites - redtube, pornhub etc. What does that mean?