What do men in relationships really think when watching porn?

[ctr916]

Sex can exist without porn. Porn cannot exist without sex. That doesn't mean porn is sex. that is a sweeping generalization a fallacy. You would know that if you actually understood what a fallacy is. Porn is the depiction of sex. Not the act of sex. Which is what you do not understand. When you understand the meaning of depiction. Sleeping with your wife or girl would be sex. Recording it while doing it would still be having sex. The recording itself would be pornography. That sex is porn line I copied from you a few posts back. There is no such thing as live porn. There is a such thing as live sex. Live sex would of course be the act of sex. If you recorded the live act that had sex in it then that video would be pornography.

How would what you claim be true by analogy, in math for example? (2+2=4)

2 and only 2, plus 2 and only 2, equals 4 and only 4, doesn't that mean that 4 and only 4, minus 2 and only 2, equals only 2?

If 2 is sex and 4 is porn; how is your view consistent?

Simply watching sex can be a form of sex being depicted in real life or digitally. In my view, live sex can be a form of porn, especially if I am not present in the audience, or participating. Therefore, sex and porn are indistinguishable in normal circumstances.

[Katmeow85]

Thank you (from one gender to another) for trying.

Why are you so bothered? Its not like im your gf. Lol.

[ctr916]

You may be projecting. A thank you, usually connotes some form of appreciation. And, no, you don't need to be a (girl) friend for me to appreciate some things about women, as a gender.

[Katmeow85]

You may be projecting. A thank you, usually connotes some form of appreciation. And, no, you don't need to be a (girl) friend for me to appreciate some things about women, as a gender.

I thought you were being rude. It is easy for things to get misinterpretated over the internet.

[ForMadmenOnly]

I'd just like to know what you think when you're in a relationship and watch porn.
Is it because your unsatisfied with your girlfriend/wife? Do you like the womenin the porn more than your girlfriend/wife? Can't you be bother to have sex with your girlfriend/wife?

I just need to know. Very insecure.

Men don't think anything when they watch porn. They just watch porn, get their job done and that's it. Nothing to do with wife/gf.

Sex and masturbation are two different things IMHO.

When you masturbate its all about you. You have a need to do it, and you just do it.

Sex on the other hand requires much more energy, and at lease for me its more about satisfying my gf that myself. So you see sometimes I do like a quick masturbation.

Bottom line, don't feel insecure about it and don't worry at all.

[ctr916]

I thought you were being rude. It is easy for things to get misinterpretated over the internet.

Why would I be bothered if I were being rude on purpose?

[Katmeow85]

Why would I be bothered if I were being rude on purpose?

I suppose you wouldn't.

[Katmeow85]

Men don't think anything when they watch porn. They just watch porn, get their job done and that's it. Nothing to do with wife/gf.

Sex and masturbation are two different things IMHO.

When you masturbate its all about you. You have a need to do it, and you just do it.

Sex on the other hand requires much more energy, and at lease for me its more about satisfying my gf that myself. So you see sometimes I do like a quick masturbation.

Bottom line, don't feel insecure about it and don't worry at all.

I get that I do, but it doesn't stop me from not liking it. I wish I had a magic wand to stop be thinking and feeling the way I do.

[VincenzoG91]

I get that I do, but it doesn't stop me from not liking it. I wish I had a magic wand to stop be thinking and feeling the way I do.

After another 24 pages of this discussion thread, you will probably just be completely bored by the concept of porn.

[Katmeow85]

After another 24 pages of this discussion thread, you will probably just be completely bored by the concept of porn.

After not having sex for a long time I'll have forgotten what sex is, porn, anything to do with all of it...lol

[DannyH]

After another 24 pages of this discussion thread, you will probably just be completely bored by the concept of porn.

Shit somebody figured out my master plan

[ctr916]

I get that I do, but it doesn't stop me from not liking it. I wish I had a magic wand to stop be thinking and feeling the way I do.

Other than feeling the need for someone else to change; what do you believe may help you better cope with a guy who can see as many naked women as he wants, relatively as easily and conveniently as women? Why should you have a problem with that form of male "equality" if you claim you are not simply playing games that may be indistinguishable from forms of manipulation, instead of being more consistent to gender studies which claim women are better at relating or relationships, even if only due to greater practice?

[ctr916]

As a form of coping strategy, what would be wrong with asking a male who likes to watch porn, to simply look up some videos he would like to practice with his girlfriend, even if he needs to wade through a ton of porn to find such videos? A female could do the same, and simply claim she would like to practice as well with stuff she would prefer. In either case, she could simply "wait the guy out" until he gets aroused, and simply state that "the usury time, she be a coming" and jump him; a sense of humor always helps.

[Katmeow85]

Other than feeling the need for someone else to change; what do you believe may help you better cope with a guy who can see as many naked women as he wants, relatively as easily and conveniently as women? Why should you have a problem with that form of male "equality" if you claim you are not simply playing games that may be indistinguishable from forms of manipulation, instead of being more consistent to gender studies which claim women are better at relating or relationships, even if only due to greater practice?

I don't have any idea what will help. Maybe if I believed I was beautiful and hot or just was those two things I wouldnt be a bothered. I've so far lost over 30lbs but need to lose a bit more. I think also if my boyfriend paid more attention to me sexually I'd feel a bit better also, like 3 times a week would do be fine.

This thing about male equality and porn is bs though.

[Soreloser]

When I watch a porn, I only look at the parts that aren't meant to be seen in public. I couldn't care less about her personality. All that aside, there's no chance I would go out on a date with one of those girls.

People have been doing "extra" things to enhance sex since the beginning of time. Males are very visually-oriented people. If your body isn't new and exciting, he will visually use some picture to enhance his enjoyment. It's not about the porn either. If you can find some way to be sure to take it all away, he'll just be thinking about other people. That won't stop. Even if your body was flawless, that won't stop him from wishing to experience a variety. Since he knows that the full experience is out-of-the-question, he's fine with visual depictions.

If you are threatened and/or offended by his porn-watching, talk to him about it. If it still doesn't stop, decide if it's something to break-up over. Who knows, if you open yourself up to it, you might find something enticing about it for yourself.