Attached but not committed?

[Lord Darkshire]

I wouldn't say he is an asshole, just not a real worthy guy to be interested in.

[vashti]

It's possible he is just waiting for the right girl to come along, but to be honest, it sounds more like he is the non-committal type. He will neither commit to keep that other girl, nor will he commit to letting her go. When she has had enough, he will just move on to the next one who will tolerate it for a while.

Be careful... this situation sounds a lot like the one I am stuck with right now.

[Hotaru]

It's possible he is just waiting for the right girl to come along, but to be honest, it sounds more like he is the non-committal type. He will neither commit to keep that other girl, nor will he commit to letting her go. When she has had enough, he will just move on to the next one who will tolerate it for a while.

Be careful... this situation sounds a lot like the one I am stuck with right now.

See, I was in the same situation before myself, only I was the girl stuck on the guy who wouldn't commit. It finally became clear to me that he likes me but I'm just not the woman he really wants. He had no problem committing to his ex and his longest relationship lasted for 4 years. This other guy's longest lasted about 2 years. It just seems like I'm looking at my own previous situation from the outside now.

[vashti]

Better to be on the outside than on the inside. Of course, you know this.

[Hotaru]

Oh yes, I only hope it never happens again and I learned my lesson.

As the woman on the outside this time, you think it best to avoid him? I'm frustrated with how confusing people can be but I'm surprised with how easily I think I could back away; no doubt a result of my previous situation.

[vashti]

I think it's probably best to avoid putting yourself in a situation where the potential for being in that girl's situation is high. Of course, it's all a matter of risk, and how much of a risk-taker you are.

[Hotaru]

Thanks vash; I think given where I've come from and where I want to go, the risk just isn't worth it. =)

[haxan]

Oh, then this is even simpler than I thought. He's an attention whore or an emotional child or both.

Well, you got it all sorted out OP, no need to try and read much into it, it's no more complicated than this. ^

A guy doesn't have to be a playa as in "sleep around" playa, to be a playa. Looking for, getting, and trying to keep girls attention and affection while in constant pursuit of more and different, qualifies.