How to cope with my perfect partner's past? (smoking & drugs)

[oldskool83]

if this is all she has in her BAD past.....man ur lucky. normaly guys are upset if they find out some girl slept with more people then they have or things like that.

[smackie9]

This is the thing about when you first fall in love, you get obsessive, jealous or negative about their past.....give it about 6 months to a year and it will finally dissipate.

[oldskool83]

no one is perfect king kong. deal with it or dump her. sorry gotta be blunt seems the only way to get thru to people.

[smackie9]

Surely when you first started to get to know one another you already knew about these things about her. So why advance into a full blown relationship if it's such a deal breaker?

[vix]

While he knew I was a smoker as we got to know each other I had played down the cannabis use. I didn't wwant him thinking negatively of me so I lied. A lot. But I stopped smoking before there was any inkling we would hook up. That was all me. But I lied about when I had stopped cannabis which was 2 or 3 months before I stopped smoking tobacco

Really anything drug wise I wanted to keep from him. I figured my past, my mistakes. Leave them
In the past where they belong rather than have them mess up our relationship. He knows it all now. But the issues are still here.

[smackie9]

If the issue is still there then get out of the relationship. It's not worth going through something like that. They are the one with the problem not you. Love should be unconditional....he can't get his around it then he doesn't love you enough....not the right kind of love you should have. If it was me, his attitude would be my deal breaker.