His ex...

[MissK]

We've been going out for about a month and he's told me how he's told his parents all about me and that they really want to meet me. He's also just told me that he loves me.
See all of that info on its own sounds really good. I just feel strange at the thought of her hanging around.
You wouldnt tell someone you loved them if you didnt mean it would you?

[clynn]

Well, since the two of you have only been dating a month....I think that you can rest your worries a bit.

He is likely in a bit of a transition phase with the new relationship and I expect that as the relationship between you and him builds and as you begin to become more involved in his life, that she will fade away.

Of course you'll want to see some measurable growth of that.

Sometimes - some guys find it really difficult to give the old "heave-ho" to a girl even if they aren't interested in being with them anymore. Because men feel a sense of responsibility to the women they are with, they still have some of that after the break up.

It sounds as though the relationship you're in with his is strong adn growing stronger.

I'd keep my eye on this one, but I think you can be confident it'll end in a while.

Pretty soon you can ask to meet her.

She's not going to like going out with the 2 of you as she'll certainly be the third wheel.

(However - keep in mind that he was with her longer, and she probably knows him better - or at least a certain part of him better - than you do - at this point - so you might be advised until you feel confident, secure and as though you've built a strong rapport with him by the time you meet her - so that she is really shook!!)

[MissK]

Thank you Clynn, I really appreciate your advice. I tend to forget sometimes that its only been a few weeks and perhaps worry too much.
I know I love it when I am with him, if his feelings are genuine enough she should theoretically fade over time
Will see what happens.

[TyRuK]

I agree with Clynn. I know i still feel responsibility towards ex's and even now an ex is going through some family problems and I feel that I have to be there for her. But if he was going out with her for so long then maybe they might want to stay friends. I mean when you're that close to someone it seems alot to lose it completely! You can even look on her as a blessing because a guy having a girl as a best friend is great! The advice you girls can give is amazing!

[jaslovesant]

Can I ask all men on this thread a question pur-lease?
Would you stay friends with an ex if they had cheated on you?

[Tone]

Absolutely not.

Would you?

[alice]

Would you stay friends with an ex if they had cheated on you?

depends on the ex. do you want to stay friends? does it still hurt? is he/she someone you consider worthy of being your friend?

[Tone]

Is it the guy with bad hygiene, that brushes his teeth as often as I mow the lawn?

[Mish]

Can I ask all men on this thread a question pur-lease?
Would you stay friends with an ex if they had cheated on you?

I would stay friends so I can villainize her. It's good to have a good scapegoat sometimes

There's no defence against cheating, she'd be a villain for the rest of her natural life. It'd be fun

[shh!]

Can I ask all men on this thread a question pur-lease?
Would you stay friends with an ex if they had cheated on you?

Why would you want a friend you already know isn't trust-worthy?
(I know; I'm not a man.)