Advice for dealing with my loved one

[HeartIsAching]

I left her alone for a few days. She apparently didn't want to talk with me at all. I tried starting a conversation a few times but keeping it was hard as she was being edgy and annoyed by almost everything I say.
She has a birthday in a few days, so I sent her some money to buy herself something as a present. She said nothing all day. The evening she kept silent as usual, so I asked her if she received anything in her e-mail. She said she haven't yet checked. I said well check then. She said she has chores to do right now. I said it takes just 30 second. She got pissed, told me to **** off and exited.

How should I read this?

Are you serious?

1. That's not leaving her alone.
2. You're very controlling.
3. If it's not already too late, you're going to drive her away for good.

[Woods]

At the moment your relationship is being conducted from a distance... if you can't talk to her online or whatever then what is left? I'm not against supporting partners through difficult times but a relationship is supposed to be mutual and that often gets lost whilst one partner tries to fix (or cope with) the issues the other has. What are you getting from the relationship? Your needs are just as important as hers.
If it is indeed a seasonal thing, and you want to work at this despite the issues then maybe back off more and see if she comes around.

[jolene austin]

Depression is serious. And the fact that she has not just contemplated suicide but has talked about is very unsettling. I know you can’t support her as much from a distance, but she should be getting some help. I don’t suffer seasonal depression, but I have gone through my bouts that escalated in the last year. It completely changes who you are, what you respond to, what you want to do and who you want to do it with. You feel very disconnected. It takes a lot of work to get out. Unfortunately, I couldn’t maintain my 3 year long relationship because of what I went through last year. I imagine it will be even more difficult for you to do so from a far. I think you should focus more on convincing her to get help than just focusing on the relationship. Once she gets through the dark cloud, she might come to sorts and realize you hung around and supported her major issue versus focusing on just your own happiness. I wish you the best of luck. It is difficult but you must ask yourself if you’re willing to go through the effort.