The Boyfriend

[Ashliejae]

i understand you still think your in high school if you need to recover then recover don't make a person do it with you. And stop whining already your young go live it up, go to a zillion parties, and his past relationships believe it or not are non of your damn business they can drive a wedge between the two of you. How is that him being honest, he told you something that should have never mattered to you in the first place. Take this for what it is, a relationship. if you dont like it leave and sorry and noone has a ultra special relationship. Everyone fights and everyone has good days. And what more do you want him to understand, is he your therapist. Of course he wants to hear tid bits of things and how you feel but not some god damn life saga which im sure if he would have called you you would have talked forever. So thus no one want to talk to a drunk person on the phone.

[just.Her]

i understand you still think your in high school if you need to recover then recover don't make a person do it with you. And stop whining already your young go live it up, go to a zillion parties, and his past relationships believe it or not are non of your damn business they can drive a wedge between the two of you. How is that him being honest, he told you something that should have never mattered to you in the first place. Take this for what it is, a relationship. if you dont like it leave and sorry and noone has a ultra special relationship. Everyone fights and everyone has good days. And what more do you want him to understand, is he your therapist. Of course he wants to hear tid bits of things and how you feel but not some god damn life saga which im sure if he would have called you you would have talked forever. So thus no one want to talk to a drunk person on the phone.

"if you need to recover then recover don't make a person do it with you" - i did not say i needed someone to do it with me. That other thread was to tell others in the same position how much damage it may cause if you risked it. It was non of your bussiness thankyou unless you were just trying to find a way to accuse me of something. Please, your wasting your time dear. So therefore i clearly did not say i needed someone to do it with me.

And I was not drunk thankyou very much. Just because you drink for an occasion doesnt mean you will get "drunk" straight away. I dont know what kind of people you've been drinking with but I am not the type of person who gets carried away like you do, when I drink. I clearly remember the night. Anyway getting drunk is not the point of this thread. ---

"How is that him being honest, he told you something that should have never mattered to you in the first place."
And about his ex, yes i would very much like to trust him in what he does while we are still in this relationship together. We all know relationships=trust. It does matter to me if he sees her during our relationship, whether as a friend or not. And im glad he told me whether you care or not =)
Lets say.. If your boyfriend was meeting up with his ex girlfriend, wouldnt you like to know either before of after hand? yes. I'd thought so. If you didnt, you probably dont care much about your man.. thats probably why he was meeting up with her in the first place.

"And what more do you want him to understand, is he your therapist." In order for a relationship to last, you both need to understand eachother. So that is why i try to communicate openly with him when i can. This relationship is not just about sex, or money, or another piece experience. Its about ME and HIM.

[vashti]

This relationship is not just about sex, or money, or another piece experience. Its about ME .

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[just.Her]

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No, I am not a selfish person. I care about my boyfriend alot. Were happy together. But you can think whatever. Cause all you do is Judge a book by its cover. Thus this thread is all you live for haha

[vashti]

Are you the product of special education? I can't even *see* the book, so how can I judge it by its cover?

[just.Her]

Are you the product of special education? I can't even *see* the book, so how can I judge it by its cover?

If you didnt pick it up,
" Figure of speech" -- As in *read*. Obviously you read a forum. Think whatever comes to your mind but dont judge me by a 4 lined paragraph. It really shows your nasty imagination of people you dont even know.

[Mathias]

If you didnt pick it up,
" Figure of speech" -- As in *read*. Obviously you read a forum. Think whatever comes to your mind but dont judge me by a 4 lined paragraph. It really shows your nasty imagination of people you dont even know.

Oh, you're one of THOSE.

Look. We don't have anything to go on but a "4 lined paragraph". Just relax, and quit taking a post so personally.

[IndiReloaded]

Oh, you're one of THOSE.

Look. We don't have anything to go on but a "4 lined paragraph".

Exactly. This is one of those cases of 'if you aren't prepared to hear the answer, don't ask the question'. The OP wasn't ready to hear about the fact that she has issues. I wonder if the reason for her last breakup was for similar reasons? She certainly seems to regret the circumstances.

Just.her, you may not like what you read, but if you stick around this forum I suspect you might learn something valuable. But you have to be open enough to learn it. When someone calls you a bitch (as in the dog, not the insult), check & make sure you don't actually have a tail before going off and biting them. This goes not just for the forum here, btw, but also your boyfriend who I suspect gets a lot of this.

[Gigabitch]

If he will pick up his ex from the station in the morning, why cant i get the same priviledge. Better yet, just a 2 min phone call. Not that hard.

Well, for some reason, he didn't want to. You must have pissed him off.

[Mathias]

Well, for some reason, he didn't want to. You must have pissed him off.

Exactly.

I probably wouldn't want to either.

[vashti]

Of course, the difference may be that the ex didn't expect him to wake up at three in the morning because she was out partying all night without him...

[Mathias]

Of course, the difference may be that the ex didn't expect him to wake up at three in the morning because she was out partying all night without him...

But vashti, she DESERVES this!

As soon as certain people are gracious about what their SOs do for them, and don't expect them to be at their beck and call, this world will be a much, much better place.

[LostNotFound]

OK GUYS ! =)

I have a situation on my hands.
Me, 19 currently a student @ a local university in my country.
I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year.

Say what? JUST a year u say? well.. not just a year.. it felt like AGES.
There were a few problems evrynow and then. And they were mostly about communication and my feelings.
We didnt communicate much when it came what we both think of things or how we feel. I would be the one in the relationship telling him how i feel and i just want him to understand.
example:
me: i rang you yesterday and told you i was at a party with my girlfriends, i didnt knw how to get home remember? worst case i was going to cab (taxi) it home at 3am alone. why didnt you call me to check up on me if i was home yet? or even rang to check if i ended up finding a trust worthy person who could get me home? do you even care about me?
him: Whats wrong with catching a taxi home?
me: what? do you even care?
him: im joking
me: im not playing jokes! im serious okay...
him: how am i suppose to know when you were leaving the party


His a very stubborn person. Is he scared to tell me how he feels? i want to understand him and let him understand me

even if he did want to check with you..its 3am..isnt he sleeping?

[LostNotFound]

Like i said earlier, you dont UNDERSTAND what ive been through.
I AM trying to recover. Ive choosen who i want to be with and im making the best of it.
No im certainly not looking for "comfort". I am looking for an answer no one answered apart from bitching about who you "THINK" i am.

i kindly asked " How would u think he feels and how would i get him to understand me".
Before you say it. Yes i understand it was my fault, but you dont understand the type of relationship we have.

ooh.looks like nobodys really understanding you? so why don't you have a good think then go and talk to your bf.

[blauw]

Aren't u only upset he picked his ex-girlfriend up from the station?
And that he didn't pick u up that night ?

Maybe a lil jealous ?